🚨If you can, please don’t be disrespectful.🚨

My husband is in national guard and is thinking about going active. I am a law enforcement officer and have been for almost 5 years. He’s been away for training for 3 months& comes back on Saturday. He calls me and tells me he’s thinking about going active because he sees it more beneficial for our future family. He says that once he serves a certain amount of time, then our children will have what he’s never had and he’ll be able to pay for their college etc etc. he then asks me to go with him wherever he goes for example South Carolina, I say what about my job and he says u can transfer somewhere else. It made me uneasy, cops don’t like change. I say I like the area I work & who I work with, I don’t want to move to an area I don’t know anything about and put my life on the line. Etc. He proceeds to call me selfish. He says that I told him that I wanted a man to lead me and have a clear vision of what he wants for our family, which is true, & he says that I’m selfish for not thinking about the best for our family and future children. (Which is not true) I may GOOD money and I can afford to give our children the best life . He works as an armed security and figures that he could optimize his benefits once he’s active.....

I start getting frustrated and start crying. He says I never trust him or his vision . He goes on to say that I don’t submit to him like a good Christian wife is suppose to and trust her husband and allow him to be the head of the house. he says that he compromised a lot for me and I don’t do the same. He stated that if I can’t trust him and go with him whenever he goes then he doesn’t see me as a wife for his future children .

I have done A LOT to get to where I am. I too am thinking of children and how we can give them the best lives and education etc.

I’m frustrated.

** please please no rude or ignorant comments **