Who do I tell

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I’m 14 and have been questioning/bi for a year and I don’t know what to do or who to tell, by best friend knows and she’s been fine but another friend when I told her said that it’s just because I go to an all girls school, do you think that’s true? Am I too young to know? Who can I trust?
I just need advice!

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I’m pretty sure even if you go to an all girls school, you’ve still seen boys, and you know what you like. No one ever asks “are you SURE you’re straight? You’re too young to know.” It’s ridiculous. But also it might take time. I wanted to do things with girls in middle school but wasn’t sure if it was just raging hormones or what. But I’m now 23, and bisexual as hell lol. Good luck on your journey ❤️

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Sexuality is not definite. You can like girls, boys, or both. If you are unsure  experiment. You may not know right away or be sure of your sexual preference. It’s important to keep an open mind and an open heart.

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You don’t have to tell anyone if you think they will not be supportive. You don’t have to label yourself anything. Also of course you are not too young. I had girl crushes when I was 12. Be open to your thoughts and feelings and accept them. Watch your reactions and your train of thoughts. I used to want to “hold” a girl’s body more than I want to have my body become like hers. It’s a process of understanding, and what you like today might be different from what you like tomorrow, so be patient and take it as more interesting than confusing

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Thanks you so much everyone for the great advice, ❤️

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Congrats on figuring yourself out! Or being almost there. That journey is hard as hell, we’ve all been there.
So the thing about coming out is, you literally just get to decide for yourself what level you’re comfortable with. You don’t owe that information to ANYBODY. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your therapist, not your best friend. If you don’t want to, or aren’t comfortable with it, or don’t think the person will react well. (As we always say in queer circles: when coming out, SAFETY FIRST. If you think your parents will become abusive or kick you out or send you to conversion therapy, DON’T DO IT, unless you have a place to go already lined up.)
But if you’re excited about figuring out your identity, and you just want to preach it to the world, you can go right ahead! (With your safety in mind.)
The thing about coming out is, straight people seem to think of it as a one-time thing where everyone in the world suddenly knows. It’s not. At all. Once you decide to come out, it becomes a process that you keep going through for the rest of your life. You decide who (already in your life) gets to have that piece of information about you, and every time you meet someone new, you have to decide all over again whether to tell that new person.
As an example, I consider myself as pretty much out to everybody—at least, it’s not something I ever try to hide. Except, I refuse to tell my dad. My mom and sister know, but my dad is a bit homophobic and we just don’t have a good relationship anyway, and I just don’t feel comfortable telling him. But I’ll also come out to a person I just met. Sometimes I forget to tell people, and a few months into a friendship I’ll just be like, “Oh wait, have I told you yet that I’m queer?” And then sometimes, like when applying for jobs, I’ll probably choose to keep it to myself, as in most states in the US it’s still legal to fire someone for their sexuality. 
So, idk. This is way too long, I’m sorry😂 Coming out is more complicated than media/straight people seem to portray it, and whether and who you decide to tell is a DEEPLY personal thing. I hope at least some of this ramble was helpful, and good luck!!

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Hun u like what u like. It’s not bc u go to an all girl school. That is seriously not true. Trust who u feel like won’t judge u. Like your friend who didn’t say anything bad about it. I’m 14 and Ik im lesbian. I don’t go to an all girls school. Trust me you got this.

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You just need to relax and give your self time and it will come eventually. When you grow older and experience life you find out what you really are or what you are looking for. Don’t be confused rather just take it as it is.

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