Moms, whose teens make you a bitter person, please help.

I have this early high school daughter. She makes the whole house miserable. I try to have so much patience and self discipline. But she, since early elementary, pushes so hard and it's just getting worse. I've seen multiple counselors of my own, she's seeing one and a psychiatrist because they put her on meds. But it's still lies, cheating, stealing, manipulation but today took the cake. Her counselor informed me they were considering calling cps on me because she exaggerated a parental discipline incident with another sibling. Told them she feared I'd kill my kids. As the counselor informed and discussed situations it turns out she does this about me to her counselor, but also tells me lies her counselor says. So now I don't know if cps is coming or getting called or not. I'm freaking out but also upset because it's like this little teen has firm control over the house. We are all on eggshells, I'm on eggshells and now after today even more so on them because she now knows she can tell any story and they can report it, even if it didn't happen. So if she gets mad cause she doesn't get her way she takes the whole family to hell. I don't know what to do. I'm in more parenting classes and counseling to curb my anger is yelling. I never used to yell. I feel so... So like quitting because no matter how nice, stern, strict or pull in what I think are going to be helpful resources, it's a losing battle. And I cry and cry and cry because I hate myself for feeling like I just don't want to be a parent to her anymore 😭😭💔💔💔💔 my own birth child. How can I feel that way?!?! It's sooooo wrong. I've questioned if she has a disorder or something because my other kids are nothing nothing nothing like her. Even they hate being around her because of the torment she causes on them. Please, any advice, any moms out there that are in or have experienced this situation? Here's the crazy thing too... Outside the home she's and angel everyone says. Perfect, hard working, considerate, helpful, even kind! But at home with me and her family, we don't see that. Please even if it's just to pray for me, my family something, am I all alone here and doomed to losing myself and my children due to this situation? I posted anonymous because I see the harsh criticism that goes around here... But praying for people that literally understand and have something for me. Of course now I'm also torn expecting to be put thru the ringer with cps for a situation that didn't even happen. What did I do wrong in life to deserve this emotional turmoil 😭💔😭💔😭💔😱😱😱