So my husband and I have been married 5 years now, together for 7, we have 1 child. He is a full time fire fighter and gone at least 3 nights out of the week for work.

Our relationship has never been about sex. Okay well maybe in the beginning it was a little, In the last couple year after having our son our sex life has decreased A LOT, and I know kids change things. But we will go weeks without sex. Now he has always told me from the beginning of our relationship that he isn’t a guy that relies on sex all the time. And he literally is my best friend. We can laugh and joke about so much even when he is annoying the piss out of me.

We have be “trying” for a year now for our second child. With no luck, I just got diagnosed with PCOS, that has caused me to gain a crazy amount of weight and my testosterone level to be elevated. Now on medicine to help correct it in hopes we get pregnant 🤞🏼... but

With him being a fire fighter there are nights I get lonely and have to take care of myself when he is at the station. But on the nights he is home I would like to have sex more. But he always claims he’s tried or not in the mood. I get being tired but going weeks without sex is frustrating. When I point it out to him he doesn’t believe me even though I track it. And no he is not cheating, I know that for a fact he is terrible about keeping secrets and is completely okay with being home and nerding out.

I suggested that maybe he go and get checked out. He shrugs it off and says no I’m just tried. I’m 31 and he is almost 34. We should be still in somewhat of our prime sex life right now.

Anyone have any suggestions?! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻