Let the stupid comments and unsolicited advice begin...

After 3 years TTC, I'm finally at that point where I will tell family and friends that we are trying, if it comes up.

So far I have only told one person, my boss. I was going over my schedule with her last week and mentioned I needed today off for a Dr appointment. She asked what for and I told her a fertility specialist. She instantly got all excited that I was going to have a baby, but I had to tell her it's already been 3 years, so my hopes aren't too high that it will happen any time soon.

She jokes about how I should just get drunk one night, that always works. So I tell her that's not going to work for me, I have PCOS and hypothyroidism. She instantly goes on about her friend who has endometriosis. "She got pregnant when she was 18, had an abortion. Pregnant again at 24, miscarried. Had another miscarriage and the Dr told her she would never carry pass 12 weeks. After an abortion and two miscarriages, she's now 18 weeks pregnant". K, cool.

Then yesterday as I'm about to leave work, she and I get to talking. "So your appointment is tomorrow, are you excited?" Nope, just going over labs and discussing my next step (I mean, it's not like I'm walking out with a baby today, nothing exciting about this). I mention that I have been on birth control for the last couple months due to my PCOS and trying to get everything back on track. She was confused at first (birth control while TTC doesn't make sense to non-TTCers) then started rambling about how I'll get pregnant right away now. "Coming off birth control doubles your chances"

At this point I'm just ready to go home and trying to slowly make my way out. Then she wishes me luck at my appointment and is like "who knows, maybe you'll go in and they will tell you you're pregnant right now! Haha", (HehE 😒😑😒). Then jokes about how if I can't get pregnant, I'll have to tell my sister to carry my baby for me (oh yeah, she knows my sister. Forgot to tell her not to mention this to her, but oh well). I was like, yeaaaah no. She tells me we'll be fine. We won't have any trouble getting pregnant, she knows it. Uuuuhmmm, did you miss the part where I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years, and failing? She just doesn't get it. I don't think she understand that infertility is real and affects so many people. Both of her kids were unplanned, so she thinks it must be easy for everyone.

I always see people joke about the stupid comments and unsolicited advice, but never dealt with it personally until now. I have kept all of this a secret from everyone, and now I'm second guessing myself whether or not I want to open up about it.

EDIT: it's not a big deal that she asked what my appointment was for. In the 7 years I have worked for her, I have never once taken a day off for a Dr appointment, so I think she asked out of concern and as a friend, not a boss trying to be nosey. We don't have a stereotypical work environment and boss/employee relationship, so it's fine. Obviously if I don't want people's advice,I shouldn't open up. But like I said, this was my first time telling someone, she is the only person who knows. So this was my first experience with this and that's why I said at the end I'm not sure whether or not I want to continue opening up with people. This just isn't what I was expecting.