Anxiety after break in & husband not helping!

Our house got broken into around 7 weeks ago in the middle of the night whilst we were both in bed, asleep. Six weeks later, someone tried to break in again in the middle of the night, unsuccessfully. I've been suffering with terrible anxiety, unable to sleep, barely able to function with normal life. My husband is pretty much fine and when I ask him to do things (not leave car keys or his laptop in view from the window, lock doors, not leave blinds wide open) he gets angry with me and acts as if I'm making unreasonable requests.

Tonight he left a ladder in the garage (which the intruders have opened both times) even though I asked him not to, so I've been sat up all night waiting to hear someone climb in through one of the windows as they do not have proper locks. I finally snapped at about 3 am and it's now been brought into the house. He's going away for 2 weeks next week and whilst I'm terrified of being alone in the house, it's made me realise he's actually contributing a huge amount to my anxiety. I don't know what to do... We were ttc but I don't think I want a baby with someone who cares this little about how his actions or lack of affect me, even when I tell him how it makes me feel.