Sorry long post. I'm usually a private person and I keep things to myself and also try to handle things myself, but this just isn't getting resolved at all. My stepson came to live with us November of last year. Now before this we had him for one Summer the previous year. Everything was all right, but I noticed some behaviors that I wouldn't say were bad, but needed to be watched. All in all that Summer was okay, but it was two months with no school and video games. Fast forward to November 1st. He moves in due to having behavioral issues with his mom. I had just had a baby, terrible pregnancy, post partum psychosis, and our marriage was already on the rocks, but I didn't feel like it was my place to say no your child shouldn't come to live with us right now. I also have a child from a previous relationship so of coarse I understand and I welcome him as if he's mine. The first week he's with us he tells my daughter that they should make a plan to not listen to their stepparents. So him not listening to me and her not listening to my husband. I don't find this out for a whole month. In that month they were not listening at all, back talking, not doing chores, you name it. I had to question my daughter in the end because I got suspicious. My husband told me when I told him this that his son wouldn't do that. I flipped my top. I was angry with him for not seeing anything at all. He won't try in school. He thinks gang activity is cool. He says things to my daughter that aren't appropriate behind our backs. He has tried to run away. He has even tried to fight his dad. My husband is acting like he can't see any of it some days and the days he does attempt to see anything he either downplays it or acts like he is only finding all this out for the first time. Did I mention I'm 28 weeks 5 days pregnant? I've never done this before and I'm trying to put myself in my husbands shoes, but it's hard with him not doing much. Idk where to even start. Please some advice or something.