Where do you draw the line

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Do you consider your partners feelings when making decisions about a friendship? For example, if your partner is uncomfortable with one of your friendships, do you limit it? Does it depend on the gender of the friend? 
I struggled with this with my bf(we're now on a break). He believed that since it affected him, I should take his feelings into consideration. I felt like my friendships were my own business.

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Me and my husband are ONE. If he’s not comfortable with a friendship it’s for a reason. I would cut it off if it threatened my relationship with him. Without a doubt.

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I absolutely consider his feelings. If he is overreacting I do my best to help him understand the friendship. I make sure I respect boundaries with communication and time spent and I make sure my friendships are appropriate and respectful of my relationship.

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The discomfort would have to be reasonable. Some partners are simply controlling or abusive and seek to isolate you; but let’s say if I were friends with a male who I had sexual relations with, had pursued me, who I pursued, or there was a history of cheating on my part then that’s reasonable.

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If they’re uncomfortable I will take it into consideration

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It depends. He doesn’t control who I’m friends with. Him saying “you can’t be friends with that person” is controlling and abusive. Him saying “I’m uncomfortable, let’s talk about this” is perfectly fine, as long as the above statement never comes into play. My SO and I have both gone through this. When we first started dating, my best friend was my ex. He didn’t have a problem with him because he was my ex, he had a problem because he was manipulative. My SO asked me if we could talk about my friendship with him, so we sat down and he told me about how he thinks Jordan (my best friend at the time) was manipulating me. He never once said I couldn’t be friends with him, never once complained when I went to hang out with him. But he helped me realize that our friendship wasn’t t healthy, so I cut Jordan out of my life. 
My SO also had a friend, Cody. He made racist comments that made me super uncomfortable, but he never made them when my SO was around. He also was constantly trying to get my SO to start taking steroids with him (they used to go to the gym together every day). We used to go on double dates with him and his wife every month. It lasted about 3 months before I told my SO I didn’t want to go anymore, that I was uncomfortable around Cody. He asked me why and I explained to him exactly what I said above. I never said he couldn’t hang out with him, just that I didn’t want to. He decided after that conversation to cut off that friendship as well

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I have a small group of close friends and a few of them have been there a long time . So they would need to get a long . But my friends have never not respected my relationships in the past. Or done Sketchy things where they wouldn't be liked

Where do you draw the line

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