9 weeks and no baby?!?!?!
So I’m 16 and 9w1d and the doctor doesn’t know I’m pregnant and neither does my mum. I know I am definitely pregnant because I’ve had 5 positive home tests done days apart and the first day of my last period was 15 July. My boobs are sore and have grown, I’ve had food cravings and aversions, sensitive smell, and the fatigue is just off the roof and I haven’t had any bleeding what so ever. I went for an abdominal ultrasound for my liver check up. Afterwards I asked the doctor to check lower down near my uterus but i didn’t specify the words uterus but it felt pretty low. I was hoping she’d find the baby and that’s how I was planning on telling my mother because I am scared. She just told me that nothing looked out of the ordinary. Now I’m really scared and waiting to get the results of my ultrasound. Do you think I’m having an ectopic pregnancy? I don’t know what’s going on.
*UPDATE*
I wanna start off by saying thank you so much for the moving kind and encouraging words. Today I went to school and was feeling really sick so I called my mother to come and pick me up. I then said to her “we need to go to the doctor to get a referral for my ultrasound appointment that I made”. She then said to me “what another one again”. Then I looked at her and said yeah to check for the cramping that I had near the bottom of my stomach. She then said to me “just tell me are you pregnant”. I then looked at her and said yes. She drove to my older sisters house and I told her how it happened. I tried ti say that I didn’t know the father that well and that I had lost contact with him, but she kept pushing me saying a child needs to know their father. That’s when I told her the truth that he is way older then me. She’s not angry at the fact that I am pregnant, she is just disappointed that it wasn’t with someone my own age. But she blames him and doesn’t blame me at all. She says he’s used me. I also reassured her that I was aware of what I gave consent to. Tomorrow I have my blood test to confirm the pregnancy and then finally get referred to an ultrasound. Right now the only people that know are my mother and older sister and I am extremely glad that I have told them now. My sister had a baby five months ago and said I can use the crib and other necessary items that she won’t need soon like her sleeping thing in the lounge, her pram etc. as far as the father goes, he is homeless right now and isn’t stable. I am hoping once he gets a house he can get off the pot and hopefully smoking too because I want the baby to at least be able to know that it has a father and that I didn’t try to keep them apart. If he can’t change then maybe it’s best if they don’t meet at all in the future which is a shame because he is a great guy, he’s just got it really hard. But thank you so much for giving me the courage and confidence to do the right and mature thing 💕
UPDATE:
The reason baby wasn’t seen on ultrasound was because it was still too early to see and the lady wasn’t looking for a baby it was just my liver. Ended up having a condition called incompetent cervix and went through half my pregnancy thinking I’d go into labour early and have a premature baby. But luckily I had baby girl on April 18th 2020 at exactly 39 weeks. I also dreamt I’d have her on that date. she’s almost one but has never met her dad but he’s seen a few pictures
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