Okay. So my husband and I have a beautiful 14 month old girl. His family, specifically his mother and sister turned into crazy, obsessive, critical and passive aggressive in-laws as soon as the baby came.

Unfortunately, there has been a lot of drama and really I have not been treated well. A few months ago I confronted them both about an incident where I overheard them talking crap about me to other family members (while holding my baby!). I tried to schedule a time for us to sit down and talk everything out. MIL did and it was a huge fight. Nothing was really resolved but at least she sees now who is boss and that I will not tolerate that treatment. SIL has totally blown it off and pretended like nothing happened. I have attempted to talk to her more than once about it and she just blows me off.

They all pressure us weekly to see them. We say no half the time and get met with sad puppy dog disappointment. They are always talking about how the miss our daughter like they never see her, when I think they are lucky to see her a decent amount for in-laws. They never ask us what day or time works for us, they just schedule something and tell us “hope you’ll be there” and when we choose not to or can’t we are the bad guys. Husband and I are so sick of it!

When we try to talk about things they act innocent like we are making up their behavior and that how we feel is all on us. Honestly, it is feeling so impossible! Impossible to have a relationship with them that isn’t completely shallow and one sided.

It’s constant stress in both of our lives and I just don’t know how to make it stop!