Why does she do this....

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My 10 week old will sleep 5-6 hours straight...wake for a feeding...fall back to sleep (so I put her back in the bassinet still swaddled) and she sleeps for exactly 30 minutes. Just like her naps during the day. 30 minutes on the dot. WHY!?!? I'm starting my day between 3am-4am and I can't nap or anything bc her naps are only 30 minutes. I really truly hope this is going to end soon. I can't keep this up. Plus, I can't drink coffee because she is a nightmare if I have any caffeine (breastfed baby 98% of the time) so I'm sleep deprived, can't drink caffeine, can't nap, and because of my husbands job we live far away from family so I have no help. Im starting to cry a lot and I'm just not the mom I want to be. I don't know what to do. 
**I understand I have a baby and losing sleep is expected but there must be something I'm doing wrong for her to only nap 30 minutes at a time or why she won't go back to sleep after feeding. So please don't tell me to suck it up...I'm really in need of advice right now. No advice. No reply. Thank you**
Below is me holding her...as she sleeps. This is the only way she will go back to sleep.

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Women who tell other women to just suck it up deserve to be sent into exile somewhere really terrible. I don’t have advice but just want to say don’t listen to them! It DOES suck and you have every right to reach out for some new mom advice! From a mom who lived this... I hated every minute of those looooong sleepless nights. I’m waiting for my time to “miss it” but I’m actually putting off having another because of how my son is a terrible sleeper.

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I feel u on this one , my son was sooo hard to put to sleep as a newborn I cried a lot too.. I still cry and he’s 9 months lol but it gets easier !!

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Follow wake times girly. I always say anything goes the first 12 weeks, but after that I strongly suggest following wake times.
There are many sleep learning methods, learn about them, choose one and stick with it. All naps and night sleep in the crib.
In the newborn stage little sleep is a part of the territory but it absolutely does not have to continue on much longer than that. I have helped countless people get there babies to nap/sleep through the night with the information that is out there. 
Start by learning wake times, doing a quick routine, and being consistent.

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It’s difficult to tell from the picture, is her stomach touching you? I guess what I’m asking is it more of a side hold or more like she’s laying on her stomach?  I have 3 boys & pregnant with our fourth.  I know everyone is going to jump all over me & if it’s not something your comfortable with, that’s absolutely fine.  My Pediatrician says that daytime is tummy time, of course all the rules still apply: nothing else in the crib & no swaddle during the day.  I was way to paranoid  with my 1st & he was 4months old before I even let him day sleep on his side, but was that 1 in million baby sleep 12 straight hours at 8weeks.  My second was still waking 2-3 times a night at 9months old.  I fought & fought for him to sleep on his back, but once he learned to roll he would only sleep on his stomach.  He also turned out to allergic to dairy & soon we cut that out his sleeping improved drastically. He did have any typical sign of stomach upset & gripe water/gas-x never helped him sleep better.  With my third.... he wouldn’t sleep in the bassinet, he fought the swaddle, I tried everything.  He’s just a stomach sleeper, has been from day one.  However he still wakes for 1 feeding at 9months.    Sorry for the long post, but I guess my suggestion would be make note of the position she sleeps best in & then discuss it with your doctor.  It could be there are other dietary changes you need to make for her. I had to cut dairy out entirely when I breastfeed.

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The first 2-3 month the way i got sleep was to let her nap on me. I had to do what i had to do. I was doing the night tine feedings, no family help, no help from my husband becuase of his work. I was alone and I did what would work for us. Now my little girl is almost 11months and sleeps through the night and 3hr nap or 2- 2hrs naps in het crib since 5months!

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My little one didnt sleep in the bassinet well either and woke up every 40 minitues for the longest time,so we co-slept and it worked pretty well,but i decided one day that i cant keep sleeping crowded so around 3 months i moved her to the crib and made sure she was dressed warm and in a sleep sack,or dressed according to the weather i should say..mabey shes sleeping better in your arms because of your body warmth
That being said,my girl is 6 months old and still wakes up for a feeding every 3 hours during the night and i dont mind anymore but it was hard at first.some babies are just bad sleepers,you adjust:)

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I believe that nap sleep cycles can be around 30 minutes, I would give her 5-10 minutes when she cries for a nap before picking her up, she may be dreaming, or just shuffling in sleep.
I have a bad sleeper too that what I slowly started doing & it helped

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My cousin just told me that her boss swears by putting a bag of beans swaddled in a receiving blanket next to baby’s hips and legs. The baby’s body heat heats the beans and the weight makes them think someone is holding them. Maybe this will work for you? Does she continue to sleep while you hold her?

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Do you have a routine? Like feed, burp, change, rock, lay down? Or whatever your routine is before bedtime. It’s so hard figuring out what they need 😢

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Check out takingcarababies on instagram. She has great tips! My LO was doing this and I started implementing crib naps very consistently with Caras tips and she went from 30min to 1 hour naps. She can now fall asleep on her in the car seat or stroller (she would scream before when she was tired in them) and she can get herself back to sleep at night. She is 12weeks.

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