What the heck hair?

I see lots of ladies on here with their hair and make up on point and I’m over here looking like this. I’m trying to space out my hair washes a bit more without wearing my hair up on all the days that aren’t wash day. This is day two hair. I have to clip or pin it somehow because it doesn’t lay right unless it’s wash day.

But clearly I don’t know what I’m doing. I put two Bobby pins in it where the arrows are but I feel like there’s a better placement for them. Any ideas? Closer to the scalp? Closer to my ears? Something else?

I’m literally clueless ladies. I can’t even get the messy bun right. So please tailor your advice accordingly.

Thanks

ETA: I’ve been following the curly girl method for 7 months now and my hair is still a mess 🤦🏼‍♀️ (it was like this before too)