Induction shaming?

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My due date is today with no real signs of labor and at my last doctor visit we agreed that as long as everything looks good at one last visit tomorrow, I will be induced on Wednesday at 40 + 3. This was partly because I really wanted to be attended by the midwife I’ve been seeing with my obgyn, who is only on call certain days, but mostly because I’ve been miserable for weeks and having more and more discomfort and difficulty sleeping, and it’s getting to where I can barely force myself to go to work anymore.
I don’t want to start my maternity leave before she’s born because I only get 6 weeks unpaid and I know I’m going to need it all for recovery.
I’m excited that the end is in sight but I’ve had multiple people quizzing me on why we’re inducing so early, and trying to talk me out of it since there’s no medical urgency. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve considered lying and saying I’m having high blood pressure or something so they’ll stop judging me for not letting it happen naturally.
Is anyone else in a similar boat?

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I was due yesterday and will be getting induced Wednesday evening. Everyone tells me to wait and see if she will come on her own. All ai tell them is that it is my body and my child. The doctor is telling me that its ok to get induced because I am already 40 weeks and regardless she would want to induce me at 41. I chose to be induced because honestly I am tired and my body aches and I hardly sleep! I go to work miserable and it is a struggle. We have to listen to our bodies and we shouldn’t be shamed for it. You do what you think it is best. People will always talk and want to give their unwanted opinions.

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When I was taking my doula training class, we had to watch a video. It was a documentary about 4 women with completely different birth choices. You had to practice being accepting of their choices even when you disagreed and even when you knew they weren't either the best medical choices or even the right choices for that particular person. 
At the beginning it seemed like the documentary was heavily judging this one woman for having an elective c section for what seems like only convenience and not medical reasons. In the end, you learn about her life and you realize she made this choice out of fear of child birth. You start to empathize a bit even though you want to tell her there is a better way to deal with the fear.
Another woman is doing a home birth with a midwife and doing everything the natural way. They begin by presenting it very neutrally and you think, ok is the only controversy that she is planning a home birth? Then you learn she has medical issues and she is doing the home birth despite the risks to her and her baby. Then you have to really try to empathize and practice acceptance on a whole new level. 
I say this because, no matter what you do, from someone's perspective, it isn't the right choice. Unfortunately moms get the brunt of this judgement and it is swift and it is constant and it is never ending. 
I'll give you the same advice I give my pre teen when he tells me how people judge him for this or that... fuck em.

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This is just the beginning of the mom judgement... I was induced at 40 weeks because of preeclampsia and I still got some side eye because of it (or maybe it’s just in my head!). Then, baby was crooked and had her arm around her face so she was stuck, and we had to use the vacuum, after 4.5 hours of pushing (with no epidural). I’m getting judgement for that, too. My midwives said she probably isn’t feeding well because of the lasting impact of the vacuum. So I get to feel guilty about that, too. 
Anyways, that’s all to say that people will always have opinions about how you parent, so do what you know is best for your family with as much confidence as you can and try to let the judgement roll off your back... (and if you figure out how to do that consistently, please let me know ;)

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I was induced at 39 weeks, simply for convenience purposes 🤷🏼‍♀️ don’t let people shame you — especially when you’re full term! It’s your body & baby. My induction went very well even with it being a week early. 
Good luck!!

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YES YES YES!
I’ve been wanting to post about this as well. I’m being induced on Wednesday (will also be 40.3!) and literally everyone acts like getting induced is the worst decision you can make. Like instant mom -shaming. When in all actuality the most recent risk vs benefit study in 2018 shows you’re less likely to have a c-section if you induce vs not. I have felt so shamed by so many women when I bring up being induced. In my mind, as long as my baby gets here safely, even if it ends in a c-section, how is that the end of the world or how does I make me a bad mom from the start? It doesn’t! I wish people would stop acting like it is. I did my research, it’s what my husband and I are comfortable with. I only get so long for maternity leave and it starts yesterday. If I wait until next week and do end up having to have a section, I will have to be out an extra week without pay for recovery and we def can’t afford that. I have talked to plenty of women who had great induction experiences. I think the people who talk about it being horrible is just the dog that barks loudest and not necessarily the truth for the most amount of people. 
You’re not alone, boo. You do what you’re comfortable with and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it!!!

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I had high blood pressure so that’s why I was induced and people still couldn’t grasp why the mid wives and doctors wanted to induce me

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I’m in the same boat. I was pulled out of work last week so I’ve already used one week of leave. My due date is today and with no signs of labor. My appointment last week I was only 1 cm dilated and I’m scheduled for induction tomorrow. I’m struggling hardcore. If I don’t go in tomorrow their next opening is October 8th or I’m on a waiting list so looks like I’m in tomorrow.

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It’s such an awkward position to be in, and you find yourself trying to rationalize it to other people. Some people will have their own biases due to their experiences. For example, I was induced with my daughter and it ended 3 days later in a csection and it was a really awful experience for me. With that being said I have my own personal bias against being induced, BUT i recognize that because of my experience so my mouth is shut 🤐. Childbirth and parenthood is such a sensitive/vulnerable experience and so many people are going to feel differently.

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Tell them to kiss your ass

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Tell whoever is shaming you to mind their own business. People are so weird about pregnt and babies and trying to stick their nose in where it's not wanted.
Sorry that they are doing that to you, you're doing an awesome job and you will be a great mom!

Induction shaming?

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