Not sure about kids
Am I a bad person for not knowing if i want kids? My boyfriend has expressed to me MULTIPLE times that he wants at least two children. Honestly, I’d love to be a parent with him and I think we’d be pretty damn good at it. But there is still this tiny voice in the back of my head like, “are you sure you want kids!?” Mind you, we are in our mid 20s. I’m 24 and he’s 25. We both have finished school and I’m contemplating going back for my masters and he’s in the middle of trying to switch career fields. At this very moment we definitely aren’t ready, but now family is starting to chime in and asking when we think we’d be ready to start a family. Me personally, I’d be okay being a 30yr old first time mother. There are just so many things I want to do and that him and I want to do together. I feel like I don’t fully have the patience to deal with children either. Anytime we babysit it’s all fine and dandy but then my patience wears thin and I’m so excited to return them to their parents! I’ve spoken with him about it, but he 100% wants children. He respects my worries about it but he tries to reassure me that it wont be for a few years before we’re ready so i have time to think about it. Idk guys, I just feel like I’m supposed to be the cool aunt that travels with her husband, has a cool job, comes around when it matter, and always give good gifts lol
I don’t see myself as a domesticated goddess going to sports practices, helping with hmwk, and cutting lunch sandwiches into crazy shapes!
...EDIT...
I’m not “stringing him along” lol he is WELL AWARE of my feelings. We are very transparent with each other and he is fine with my feelings. At the end of the day, he wants children with me and I’ve told him i want the same, but i am terrified and parts of me don’t feel ready anytime soon. We just want to go through life TOGETHER regardless of what comes our way, whether we have children or don’t. Because we love each other, we are willing to make necessary sacrifices when necessary.
This post is not about my relationship but more so on my lack of maternal needs. Is it okay for me as a woman, to not be sure if i want to bring a life into this world, when biologically speaking i am the only person in my relationship that has that power to do so
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