Disrespected & devastated

So I got into a really heated argument with my daughters father last Night and it has really left me in a bad place.

From all of the name calling and degrading he did from the way I look to intimate encounters we have had in the past. I mean he really hit me with some blows. Saying how he’s never cared about me and never will, never will respect me. When all of our arguments have been about him being inconsistent with our 1 year old daughter. I try to make it about her only and I’ve done really good with it but last night for some reason I did not hang up the phone. I allowed him to belittle me in ways that have me feeling alone and unattractive. He went out his way to say why I’ll never find someone because of the way I look. He was once the same person who once told me how beautiful I am and how much of a queen I am to now this? I know hurt people hurt people but for some reason I have not been able to shake this feeling. I called out of work today and have been in bed all day. Analyzing everything about myself and trying to figure out why I gave him that power last night and how to take it back. I am completely lost and feeling like that insecure 13 year old girl who always felt like she wasn’t good enough for anyone. I’ll be 30 soon and I can’t believe I’m feeling like this from someone who I still care about and value as my child’s father. I’m sick of crying today feeling like I lost myself again. Any advice on how I can get my power back and stop letting his words cut me so deep?