What can I do??

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So I have this “friend” 
Not really gonna call her my friend after the stuff she’s been doing 🤦‍♀️
But she is currently 33 weeks pregnant and has literally been causing herself to go into preterm labor.
She’s been pumping even though her doctor specifically said not to. She’s been having sex when she’s on pelvic rest. A couple weeks ago she was put on bed rest because her blood pressure was literally through the roof but said “I’m still going to work.” I’m talking about in the area where she personally could have had a stroke. Because that’s how high it was. 
I feel like she’s purposefully causing herself to go into preterm labor and I’m absolutely terrified for her unborn child. 
She is NO where near close to a good a NICU unit. I have messages she has personally sent me about the things she’s been doing even though her doctor has told her NOT to.
Is there anything I can do? I know it’s not my business but I’m terrified for this child and that this mother is knowingly doing these things to cause herself to be put into preterm labor. She’s even personally said “baby can be here anytime now!” On social media and I just cannot grasp what person, let alone mother would put their child at risk trying to start labor when the baby isn’t fully developed. 
Ive tried to talk to her like “hey your baby could have serious health issues. The lungs aren’t developed yet and the baby will wind up staying in NICU for possibly weeks/months” but she literally is like “ I don’t care.”
I saved the messages because you never know what could happen but is there anything I can do now for this baby? I feel like I care about the baby more. 😞 I’m currently pregnant 37 weeks and just the thought of someone doing this kills me and just makes me want to take care of her kid since she seems like she doesn’t care what happens.
If something were to happen could she get charged? That’s why I’m keeping the messages. I just don’t want her to somehow kill her baby from her immature decisions and if she did I most definitely don’t think she should get away with it!

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That is terrible 🤦🏻‍♀️ I am honestly not sure what you can do. What I would do is next time you go to your doctors office maybe ask your doctor about it. Tell them what this person is doing and ask if there is anything you can do about it. They may be able to give you information. I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️ that is so sad 💔

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Could she maybe be depressed? Perhaps you can get her to open up about why she acting this way. Then maybe suggesting she talk to her doctor about how shes feeling and he can maybe prescribe her some meds or suggest a support group. I know the last weeks can be super hard, especially if things arent going as planned (and it sounds like they are not). She might be acting this way because it makes her feel more in control. 
I was on modified bedrest for almost 20 weeks during my last pregnancy and having constant contractions for 10 weeks straight. There were definitely days that I just wanted to give in and let the baby come early because I was in so much pain and I felt like such a burden to my family because I couldnt do anything except lay there and be served like a fat cow. I stuck with it but i had such a strong support network to help me through it. 
I'm just saying that maybe there is more to your friend's selfish behaviour and her comments to you are her way of asking for help. Obviously I dont know her personality to begin with. Just ask yourself if this behaviour is out of character for her or not and that might help guide you.

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Does she realize she could have a stroke or her baby could die from her purposefully making these mistakes and ignoring the doctors medical recommendations? High blood pressure is no joke. Pelvic rest is no joke. And her baby being born at 33 weeks is no joke. Maybe she doesn’t realize the severity, and she needs someone to look her in the eye and tell her that she’s risking the life of the baby, and herself. 
Yikes. I would ask your doctor if there is a specific protocol they follow for someone like this. Maybe they can give you some tips. My guess though is that there is nothing you can do. Which is crazy.

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You could call CPS and ask them if anything could be done but probably not.  Either way, she knows the risks and doesn't care. She's flat out told you that. If her doctors know what she's doing and nothing is happening, there's probably nothing that can be done. They are mandated reporters. 
It's commendable how concerned you are but it would also be ok to cut ties with her.

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Oh my god she clearly doesn’t give a crap about her baby. I would report her before it’s too late to social services x

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well shes an idiot, as a mom of a preemie she pushes me off. unfortunately though I'm not sure you can do anything hun.

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