So my husband lost his mom back in July. Still fresh and I totally respect that. I loved her too, she was a great MIL.

Were now pregnant with our first and are so excited. I know it's still early in the game of him losing his mom but all he talks about is his mom and I feel like since being pregnant, it's been even more.

When I announced it to him, he went to our room alone, took a shower and came out crying. I just held him and knew that this would be a long road, but at the same time, we had been trying for two years and I wanted this to be a joyful moment. I understood how much this must hurt not having his mom see our baby or be with us but....ladies I'm so hormonal I think I might lose it soon

I'll bring up an appt and hell bring up his mom.

Ill start crying because I'm emotional, hell bring up his mom and I stop crying because I want to focus on his hurt.

Well go to the store and look at baby clothes, I'm excited and ..his mom is yet again brought up and its somber.

If I sleep too much, hell talk about how all his mom could do was sleep and how I should be doing more.

If I get sick, hell tell me how his mom was always sick and I'll be fine...

I know this is just a lot of emotions going thru both of us, but if I talk about baby one more time and he brings up his mom instead of actually talking about something else or about baby I think I'm going to scream. I know we have a long road to go but it seems like he hasn't been thinking about this baby at all. Just his mom...

Ladies, please tell me I'm being crazy and hormonal. I dont know I thought that this would be a joyful time in our lives, but since his mom dying, I feel like I'm going into a depression because no focus has happened on our baby except for me.

Update: Ladies, thank you for your responses. I definitely dont want to have him just get over it, i deeply care for this man and had a great relationship with his mom. So it hurts me to see him like this especially when I'm a ftm. I told him how I felt and he really had no clue that he was talking that much about her. We cried and I told him that we won't forget about her for a second, but its baby bean's turn to get some fame. He agreed and promised he would try to think of baby and is excited.

Were going out to her grave tomorrow to "tell her" because we haven't yet and I want to put some baby shoes out there for her. I'd rather do that then focus on her during baby time. We decided to dedicate a designated time each week for baby needs and when he needs to talk about her, I think I'll better knowing it's out of a timeframe. I didnt want to contain his grief to a time of week because you just never know when itll strike. A little goes a long way that's for sure.

Thank you for replying ladies.