Rant!! (Sorry this is so long)

Okay so I’m 17 weeks and I’ll be having my baby shower November 17th when I’m 22 weeks on the day. I’m trying to start getting a list together of what I wanna get for the shower (decoration wise). We just found out the gender so now we can officially start buying things for the theme. My mother in law decided to tell my husband she’s gonna buy all the decorations and stuff but hasn’t once consulted with me about what I WANT at my shower. She did her daughters shower and I want this to be a think between me and my mom. I’m not saying she can’t help but she’s trying to take over AGAIN after being told once before not to. Ugh I just needed to rant. It’s already stressful as is and she’s making it worse. When I bought the invitations she knew I did and knew when I was gonna start filling them out. And after I told her I sent them out she yelled at me for not asking for addresses for family on her side. For one: I don’t know any of them and she doesn’t speak nicely of them. Two: they don’t text or contact my husband to see how he’s doing or the baby or anything. Three: she knew I was sending them and knew when I was writing them out and didn’t bother to tell me addresses or ask if I wanted any. This whole pregnancy she’s treated me different and makes me feel like my husband made a mistake being with me and having this baby with me. He asked me last night if I hated her and I started crying and explained to him that I feel like it’s the other way around. He said he’d talk to her but I feel like itd be pointless. She tells me I’m overreacting about things when I’m upset or worried instead of trying to talk to me about it. She makes me feel like I’m not doing anything right because I’m not working like she did when she was pregnant. (We only have one car between us and my husband works 40+ hours) ugh I just really really needed to rant. It’s hard to talk to people about this but I feel like having more than one person to help me with this or rant to is better. Especially because everyone’s opinion on here is outside of the personal relationship which is always great. Thank you in advanced if you made it through this whole thing lol