Rape?

Question

So a few years ago when I was 17, I was dating this guy. 
He wanted to try anal and I consented but after a minute or two I told him to stop. He never did, he only kept shushing me or would say “Easy.” 
Same thing when ever I would give him oral pleasure. I tried pushing him away, not in like a forceful way but to let him know that I didn’t enjoy that. He kept me there and never let me breathe.
Sounds silly but I need to know. Both cases I consented.....
Anything helps. Thanks guys.

Accepted Answer

Definitely sexual assault and rape

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If you consented and didn’t standout for yourself, is not rape. You allow him. If you meant NO show him no. Don’t say no and show yes. That’s why  all Confusion  comes now. The anal I can understand shushing and saying relax because if you agree, it will hurt anyways. There’s no anal without pain. So maybe he was actually trying to get you relax in order to ease the pain for you. Either way you should’ve standout and be clear: hey no this hurt too much I don’t really want to do it and standup. I can understand feeling raped, but I wouldn’t say it was. I will say it’s the result of how we’ve woman has been programmed into pleasing a man and not speak up 😭

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Yes. Even if you said yes at first, if you indicate you want him to stop, that is no longer consenting. That is rape and assault. I’m sorry this happened to you. 💗 No shame in therapy if you want to work through it.

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The moment you say no or stop it’s no longer consensual even if you said yes previously

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The moment you say no even if you initially consented it becames rape or assault, because you are withdrawing your consent.

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The moment you express that you don’t want something then consent is retracted. Anything after you have retracted consent or expressed you don’t want it is considered sexual assault or rape.

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To all you dumb fucks who said it’s not rape are disrespectful and should read the post where she clearly said NO. And stop. 
Who the fuck thinks this is ok? I’ll send a male to do the same to you then come crying back here saying it wasn’t sexual assault or rape.

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Girl it is rape and I've been through similar shit and Im sorry it happened to you. It caused A LOT of distress in my life until I had therapy and it changed my life. 100% recommend getting therapy.

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You told him to stop and he kept going, definitely rape. Doesn't matter if you consenting in the beginning, if you become uncomfortable and tell him to stop, and he doesn't care, he's a rapist🤷‍♀️

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You said no and he didn’t listen that’s rape sweetheart once you told him to stop he needs to respect you enough to stop.

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