Can u relate? Can you give any Advice ?

My husband &I have been living together in 1 home for almost 3 years now .. I cook everyday even if I don’t eat clean the house, wash dishes, wash our clothes fold them stuff I NEVER did being a single woman with no children in a 1 bedroom apartment i didn’t even have pots or pans back then, I would take my clothes to my moms house when they needed wash & I have to tell him to take out the trash, not to take his dirty socks off in the living room &leave them on the floor, to put up his clean clothes up shit last week I had to tell him to take me on a date.. I feel in a relationship both people should strive to make the other persons life more comfortable, loving & just easier &much better than it was when they were single. The problem here is I feel like He doesn’t do that & I feel like I’m the maid, the cook, &his mom most times

example: we both work 3rd shift he gets home 3 hours before me & he NEVER considers cooking us breakfast he sit his ass in the chair until I walk thru the door then tells me he hungry after a hour or so . How do I suppose to feel love and appreciated from that?

I just need some advice ladies am I overreacting? Is it not that big of a deal ? He’s the first person I ever lived with other than my parents so idk I tried to express my feeling to him & he basically thought I was just nagging about cooking so his response was -if I feel like it’s that big of a deal that I cook then I don’t have to do it & he can feed himself blah blah blah- like fuck ok jerk I know u can do that so I can but ITS NOT JUST ABOUT U .. which just proves the WHOLE point that he doesn’t take me into consideration I would love to sit back and watch tv ¬ care what’s going on in the kitchen just wait to be served a good homemade meal ..

any advice would help !