I was a foster child. My grandparents adopted me when I was 14 and they pulled me out of foster care. From ages 14-18 my grandparents sheltered me a lot and I rebelled when I turned 18 got pregnant at 19 and again at 21. Now I’m a social worker who works with Youth in Care. (Irony I know) I recently got engaged to my bf of 3 years and hadn’t introduced him to my kiddos until about 3 weeks before we got engaged. I wanted to make sure it was going to last and recently brought up to my grandma that I wanted him to meet her and she said she didn’t approve of our matrimony because he’s black.. I’m speechless and so hurt. My dad is Pakistani and my mother is Mexican. I’m the definition of mixed and I’m so so so scared to tell my fiancé that my grandma doesn’t want to meet him because of his race. I really don’t want to hurt him. This is my first time experiencing racism first hand with someone I love and I have never been so hurt in my life. I need advice on how to handle this ladies. I handle all of my grandparents financials and health appointments. I can’t even look her in the eye. How can racism still be a thing? Like why do people even think color even matters isn’t it what’s inside that truly matters?