The guilt

I’m married let’s start there , we’ve been together for 5 years and. I just recently had a baby by AI . So I was definitely hoping this would last forever !!! But I am so unsatisfied with sex and. I’ve only been satisfed why high for years . I haven’t smoked weed in over a year . And I don’t plan on doing it anymore, I want to cum without it but I can’t . I even drunk for the first time since having the baby a few weeks ago and I still cannot cum . Idk what to do I’m a sexual person and I love her but I can’t live without being pleased. Any advice ?