Ugh need to vent

So a couple months ago childcare became a problem and it was better that my boyfriend became a stay at home dad . It was great at first . Two months later all he does is play video games and doesn’t do anything around the house . I work 6 days a week 10 hour overnight shifts so when I come home I sleep . He complains I’m never home to spend time with him and the kids but like right at this moment I woke up after only getting 3 hours a sleep and he slept in till 1pm as soon as gets up he hops right back on his ps with his friends completely ignoring us . I say something about it when he went to pee and he’s exact words were “ignoring you would be not responding to you at all” like wtf is that shit . I’m just getting frustrated because the house is a mess and I never have time to do it myself and I feel like a shitty mom because my children nearly get to see me then to top it off with their dad not paying any mind to anything but himself .