Need advice- kinda long read

Im 28 weeks pregnant. Married mom of two. This entire pregnancy has been depressing for me. I’ve done everything myself from drs appointments to buying everything for new baby. My husband does absolutely nothing to help. Im still working in the medical field and mainly because im afraid if i take my leave my daughter wont have anything she needs in her first few months til i go back to work. I still have plenty to buy for her. My husband has taken over all the bills but they never get paid on time. He “forgets” or gets too busy at work to pay bills. I know he could get busy but everyday he sends me gif after gif after gif of nudes that turns him on. Instead of doing that he could be paying bills. Or give me access to his bank account so i can pay them on time.

Our home life is horrible. I work 7a-4p come home take care of the house dog and our son who lives full time with us and my daughter part time. He works 7a-whenever he wants to come home 8-9-12am. We never spend time together whether or not it’s available. He thinks when he gets home he can avoid responsibilities of the house and parenting by hiding in the bathroom until our kids go to bed. Then he hides in the den playing video games all night til he goes to bed. No where in there does he talk to me or our kids other than to ask what i did for the household after i worked all day. And if im not feeling well that day i get belittled for being that way and lacking on my duties.

I honestly feel as if im a live in nanny for him and not his wife. I get that since im pregnant he is going to need to work more to pay our bills while i have zero income coming in. Im not denying that at all. But i feel as if his priorities are in the wrong place. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I cant get out to see friends or family alone bc hes so unreliable on when he’ll get home. I missed my daughter’s school musical bc i didnt have anyone to watch my 3 ur old who has a crowd issue when he said he would stay home with him but never came home. I dont have many friends left. I can honestly count on two fingers how many i have left. But it would be nice to see them without having to worry about my son causing a scene or getting bored and crying to go home within seconds of getting somewhere. I just dont know what to do anymore. Im so depressed i have literally started packing my things and kids stuff and im ready to just drive away and never come back. Talking to him doesnt help. He just tells me im over reacting.