I know this has been posted within this group before but I'm really lost on what to do.

So, my side of the family has never had a 2nd baby shower, unless they had a boy after a girl or vice versa. I have a 2 year old boy, we of course had one for him. I'm 21 weeks with another boy and my fiance is hellbent on having a 2nd baby shower.. his sister is having a 2nd one but she is due with the opposite gender of her first.

I dont want to be judged or made to feel like I'm asking for handouts, it would be nice to have a get together for friends and family since we moved 18 hours away before I found out I was pregnant and next month we are moving back. I know that his family is supportive of a 2nd one but I dont even know how to approach the idea of it. I want to celebrate baby #2.

My pregnancy brain is making me overthink this. What would you do?