VENT! It's a lot to read...

Ok, like I hear a lot that I'm so nice and let people walk all over me but since this pregnancy I kind of been putting my foot down. I miscarried in 2017 and when I did my MIL said she was happy I did because it was gonna be hard times meaning if we had a baby we'd have to cut back on paying her bills and giving her money. It was hurtful because she would never say that to any of her real children (she adopted my husband the day he was born). I catch a lot of things that he don't, and she remind him if it wasn't for her adopting him from her cousin he'd be living in a worse situation and tells him that he owes her. Now he may fall for that but I don't but to keep the peace and keep him happy, I let him deal with it. So back in May when I found out I was pregnant I was really sick, in and out the hospital and morning sickness was a bitch. The only thing I can keep down was ginger ale soda, and I had bronchitis(which I've never had before until this pregnancy) so I started using an inhaler they prescribed me and had to do breathing treatments so my dr put me on bed rest and sent a note to my job stating I have a couple weeks off. On Mother's Day she invited us over to eat, we get there and my husband told me to sit on the couch and relax cause I'm on bedrest. The moment my husband went back outside to talk to his brothers she put me to work in the kitchen, I basically was on my feet from since I got there until I left. Mind you she didn't help at all I didn't complain I just cooked, everytime my husband came in the house she would act like she was in the kitchen with me helping. When he realized I was only one cooking he brought a chair in the kitchen and told me to sit cause dr said to get off my feet. He went back outside and his mom went to her room and was gone for a while and never came back, she has her nieces and cousins all on the couch not helping me in the kitchen. My husband comes back in see his mom is gone and tells the other ladies sitting on the couch to help in the kitchen. I step outside to get some fresh air and as soon as I stepped out I just started throwing up, I haven't ate all day only drank ginger ale so it's nothing but ginger ale coming up and acid. I threw up so much I couldn't breath, my eyes are red filled with tears so they call my husband outside and he brings me inside to get inhaler and he lays me down in is mom bedroom on her lounge. He leaves to get me ginger ale out the car and his mom comes in the room when he leaves and tells me to come in the kitchen to fix her guest plates when I'm done. 😒 Ya'll by this time I'm ready to go home, I don't even want any food. Her niece tells her to let me rest cause they saw me on the outside camera throwing up real bad and she responds oh she she can sit in the kitchen to help me. I guess I ran out of soda cause my husband left to go buy some more and some crackers. So I go in the kitchen to help and my brother in law comes in and told me not to worry about the guest plate to just fix my daughter plate, my plate and my husband plate said everybody else was grown and need to fix their own plate. That made me happy so I fixed our plates and sat down my husband came home and saw it on my face I was ready to go. He tells his mom he's leaving in a bit and she tells him not to leave that I need to help her clean the kitchen. My husband told me to sit in the chair and his brother came in the kitchen and started cleaning up the entire kitchen. She was so mad that her sons cleaned the kitchen and I didn't help. My husband was mad but didn't say anything cause he don't want to seem ungrateful for everything she's done for him. We said our goodbyes and left. I was about 10-11 wks than. Now I'm 35 weeks and my baby shower is the day before Thanksgiving, his mom knew the date if the babyshower for a couple months now. And she hadn't had Thanksgiving dinner at her house for 2 years now. Apparently she invited everybody to her house the day before Thanksgiving(the day if the baby shower) and told them I'm going to be at her house prepping food for Thanksgiving. When I told her I can't make it to her house cause that's the day of the baby shower she got upset than said she already told everybody to go to her house and saying that I have to come to come her house to cook cause she won't have anything if I don't come. 🥴 first of all when the fuck did you ask me to come to your house to cook? 2nd I'll be 36 weeks by than I'm not putting myself thru that stress. I just got out the hospital 2 days ago back on breathing treatments like NOOOOO. RESPECT MY TIME AND HEALTH. And I don't have family here and she wants get all her family at her house and tell them I'm coming to her house so no one shows up to the baby shower. I called her daughter and she got upset and asked why on earth would her mom expect me to cook and told me to stay home cause she planned on cooking at her house and bringing some food over to us for Thanksgiving. Am I overacting? Should I just go to her house and suck it up and cook to keep her happy or should I just stay home and deal with my baby shower for the people that do come? Cause idk if it's my hormones acting up or what...

*UPDATE* Thank you ladies, I didn't know if I was just in my feelings or not. I decided to keep my distance from my MIL cause she's telling everyone I got my husband pussy whipped, all he knows is his lil family and that he don't care about her. He loves his mother dearly and appreciates everything she's done. I just don't wanna be around that kind of energy she has, and I just want to be happy with my "lil family" as she calls us.