So, I really need someone to tell me who’s in the right here...

Long story short, I’ve always had a thing about people kissing my baby. I’ve seen so many horrible posts of babies getting sick (and even dying) because someone was selfish enough to kiss them.

IT IS LITERALLY MY BIGGEST FEAR!

When my baby (Vivian) was born, we had a rule of no kissing. WELL, when she was born my mother and step father completely ignored the rule. And I let it slide so I wouldn’t ruin the moment. (Big mistake on my part. I should’ve stood my ground.)

So, now that we are going home (3 hour drive) for Thanksgiving I tried to lightly tell her that the rule needed to be followed this time... and it went completely wrong.

Here are screenshots. My husband is “A” and stepdad is “D”

Then she replied with, “I’m sorry I ruined your moment with your baby being born.

I’m not throwing the shower in your face- I’m saying I have done things from the beginning for u and baby because I love u both- and yet u still talk to me this way.

You texted me attacking me and only me- no one else about this.

All u had to do was say to EVERYONE at Thanksgiving “Please don’t kiss the baby on the face!”

That’s all u had to do- and everything would’ve been fine. Yet u chose to single me and D our attacking us about loving on Vivian.

I’m over this! How about we stay home- then u don’t have to worry about any of this.....”

*SIGH*

Am I wrong or is she totally being a child??????

Edit: I’ve looked at everyone responses and I wanted to address a few things.

For all the people saying I should’ve left it alone after she said not to worry about it. She was OBVIOUSLY being passive aggressive. Plus, I know my mom and I know when she’s pissed. That’s why I kept going. Probably not the best choice, but I was hurt.

I NEVER said she couldnt put her cheek on Vivian’s. This is simply about KISSING.

I’m not on a power trip, I SWEAR. We had a list of rules for EVERYONE when I first got pregnant. I sent her the rules when I was still very early in my pregnancy and she was ALL FOR IT. (Which is why I was so surprised that this was actually an issue to begin with.)

Who’s okay with an intoxicated person holding their newborn baby?? She smelled like beer when they gave her back!!!

I should also mention my mom has the HERPES VIRUS. I’m really confused who would be okay with this.

Edit #2: This post got a lot of attention, I didn’t read everyone’s comments, but thank you to the one who understand where I’m coming from. Simply, that I’m trying to protect my child.

I noticed people think I also have the herpes virus. I don’t. I don’t know why people in the comments would joke about something like that. It’s pretty awful, hence why I take this very seriously.

Also, my biological mother didn’t raise me, my grandmother did. (Who understood the rule perfectly fine 😉 Actually agreed with me too.) So, she didn’t actually “raise me” like most of you assume. She lost custody of me completely. We have never really been close.

No matter how ridiculous you guys might think I am, this is solely to protect my daughter. You can read at the top of the post how strongly I feel about this. Whether you guys agree with me or not, I know that when my daughter eventually does get sick I did everything I could to keep her healthy.

On another note, some people were curious about what happened at thanksgiving. Well, my mom showed up and still kissed the baby.

We honestly had another argument and now she doesn’t want to be in our lives. (Even though I tried to reconcile things.) It’s honestly fine though. All I asked was for everyone to participate in keeping the baby healthy, because I can’t do that without everyone’s help.