Disrespectful questions

Warning this could trigger some people

Ok so about 8 months ago I was sexually assaulted by someone my age and doesnt go to my school. But today in class my friends were like 'who's Got dick before ' and this girl was like **** has. So I was like no I havent and she said the guys name and I said that doesnt count that is sexual assault and she was like oh what did he even do to you. So I said that was none of her concern and it isnt respectful to ask someone in front of a bunch of people and in a rude manner what happened to them. And then she was going on about how he is such a nice person and how she was gonna ask him what he did at Basketball that night but then my friend Jacob added on saying how he is such a good friend and he wouldnt do that. And I'm sitting there literally traumatised by what he did and how I have pressed charges against him, literally everything he did changed me and has both mentally and physically hurt me. But they seem to think asking those questions weren't rude or disrespectful or cheering him up making him look like a good person. Is it rude or am I just overthinking it ?