So we have been blessed with two beautiful, happy kids (one just turned 3, the other will be 4 soon) but I really, really want a third. After much going back and forth for about 1.5 years, we finally decided to start trying again since I’m 35, and 36 is right around the corner. I was so happy and ready to start!

BUT my husband doesn’t seem to be into it. When we had sex during non-fertile times, it was great, normal, hard as a rock, but during my fertile window (which I told him it was) he always went limp. I could give him a handjob or a blowjob and he’s perfectly fine, but as soon as it came time to do the deed, he went soft. I told him that this was probably his body’s way of telling me he doesn’t actually want another one. I don’t really know what to think anymore, and honestly it makes me not want to have sex with him. I try not to make it a chore: laughing, jokes, sexy talk, toys, etc, but he just doesn’t seem into it, unlike any other time of the month.

I’ve been using OPK’s, tracking CM and CP on here, trying to get ready, get the timing right, but I really wonder, should I even bother? Has anyone else experienced this? Did you continue trying? Or just let it end? Is it normal to have these feelings of dislike/resentment after getting my hopes up and being letdown every time?