My husband wants to have a side chick

Hey glowees!!! Want to pick your brain.

Saw a hotel note where my husband went to have after questioning him he admitted that he when into a hotel to have hot massage done didn’t have sex but only on his private. It happened because it was at a time when I lost my mum and my mind want there for him.

Few weeks after I saw on his phone texts of a girl chatting to him and sending him hot messages; when I found out he said he never enticed the girl but she kept coming. He decided to met the girl to put a stop to it and while in her car the girl jumped on him no wearing knickers(he said nothing happened as he pushed the girl away).

On this occasion I warned him that after this I would not tolerate a 3rd misstep and would be asking for a divorce.

Later on, we had a discussion where I ask him if he would be happy to have a side chick, and after making sure that it wasn’t a joke he confessed that he wouldn’t mind to have a woman on a side as he works in a high managerial rank and at this stage m’en needs more than a women to help them with stress.

At this stage I’m freaking out thinking I’m losing him as for him to be happy he needs another woman around and I’m scared that he might actually fall in love with than person. Although he told me he won’t be looking unless the right person come at him he will not but felt relieved that I am open to open our relationship. Deep down I am not comfortable with it as I just really wanted to understand why he behaviour has changed. I’ve asked him if there was anything I might do to help him stick to one woman and he told me, there’s nothing for me to change.

P.S: He got separated from his past 10 years relationship with three kids. Now with me we have one child and I don’t know if he’s staying with me just for having he’s safe zone and comfort. And avoid the hassle he’s already going through with his ex.

He also mentioned that growing in a house where his dad had 2 wives might be the reason he felt like having another woman

What do you guys make up out of this situation? Thanks ladies