Sex conversation

My bf and I have been together almost a year. We used to have sex twice a night and now it’s once a week most of the time. It’s really good and I don’t have a huge problem with that, but I haven’t gotten that D in a month now bc every time we get sexy it becomes me giving him a bj....I don’t think he realizes it, but I need seeeexxx. I never orgasm, so maybe he thinks I don’t want it?

I want to be able to have conversations about it that don’t make him feel insecure or bad. But I don’t know how to start it.

It’s hard for me because before I met him I was sleeping with someone who was the best sex ever, and I want that kind of passion and frequency and it’s like he’s not even thinking about it half the time. Or he acts like his is, but then he just goes to sleep. But I want to make sure he feels safe and secure and not like I’m comparing our relationship to a past one.???