Do I just have to put up with his behaviour

Sorry long post ahead... need advice

I’ve just told my boyfriend I need space from him. He’s stressing me out, and leaves me in tears so often. I’m pregnant with his baby.

Here’s a few of the things he does:

- he lies to my face. About messages to other girls, tinder, internet searches ect. Even though I’ve seen the proof and he gets caught out, he’ll lie. He will raise his voice at me and say I’m acting crazy when literally I’ve been sent screenshots of the messages. Then other times he asks “why are you like this? Why are you so insecure?” But he made me insecure, I use to be confident and so happy with him when I was oblivious to everything going on in the background 😔

- he lies about what he’s doing and who his with. Even when he’s just with the guys. He’ll say he’s with one when he’s really with a different one and the friend will post a snapstory with him in it. And it’s just like, why lie about stuff like that. I literally don’t care who hes with, just be honest otherwise it makes me question what else he lies about 🤷‍♀️

- he hasn’t offered to buy the baby anything at all. I’ve bought everything in the nursery, clothes, supplements, doctors appointments, car seat, pram ect. Yet he says this is his baby too and he wants to be a part of this. But he won’t come to doctors appointments or hospital visits. Baby’s due really soon and he hasn’t had his vaccinations even though I keep reminding him.

- he keeps making empty promises to fix the relationship from damage he’s done (tinder messages ect.) and I keep getting my hopes up that things will be different but they never are.

- I could keep listing things like last night I had to have a 3 hour emergency stay at hospital for testing and observation of the baby and he chose to go out with the boys instead. He provides little emotional support. He has no ambitions, he has all these dreams of a house for us and holidays but he has no savings plan in place (no savings at all tbh) and dropped out of uni with no intention of doing anything else but his 3-4 shifts a week at a retail store (nothing wrong with working retail - it’s just his income isn’t enough to be spending frivolously at the casino and on silly other items, and going into debt). He also will pick his friends over plans we’ve made for the day/night. Not bothered about him being with friends but it’s just a bit rude to last minute cancel cause “the boys want to go on the boat or drinks”.

Anyways I know I need to leave the relationship. My parents and close friends think I should. And deep down I know I need to. This relationship has ruined my confidence and made me so insecure. I don’t even go out much anymore because I feel like there’s all these prettier girls out there (I know it sounds silly to let him affect me this much). The silly thing is, everyone including his friends didn’t believe I was dating him in the beginning cause they thought I was out of his league. But I feel like he has broken me down, time after time, by messaging other girls and being unfaithful.

Yet every time I say I want to leave, he manipulates the situation. Says that he’s a fk up and that me and the baby are the only things he has in life. And says if I don’t want him, he might as well kill himself because I am his life apparently. I never say anything back to him when he says this because he says it a lot and I think it’s just him being manipulative. Because if he really loved me, he wouldn’t put himself in a position that hurts me or could loose me.

Despite everything he does he says he wants us to get married and that he doesn’t want anyone else. I’m so confused. I think this is a toxic relationship. If I wasn’t pregnant to him, I’d block him and of said bye ages ago. I don’t know what to do in this situation. I feel so trapped. I’ve pretty much left but I’m struggling cause he messages me, and I feel like I can’t ignore him cause he’s the father.

— Do I have to put up with this behaviour from him because hes the father?

— Does he have rights to the baby if he doesn’t pay for anything for her? It seems like he’s only interested because the baby is his key to me. I’ve said if he’s struggling with the idea of being a dad, he can leave and I wouldn’t ever expect anything from him. But he’s like “this is my baby too and want to be invloved”

— any other advice?

*i didn’t know about the messages/tinder before falling pregnant otherwise I’d be long gone