Do I deserve to be treated this way?

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Let's see where do I begin...
2.5 years ago, my boyfriend and I separated. I left him and stayed with my sister for over 6 months. During this time, him and I stayed in contact and kept hanging out.
 He went on a couple dates and claimed nothing physical happened during the hard time, and I slept with someone. 
He only considers what I did cheating.  
But....

So anyways. I end things with this other guy and my boyfriend and I decide to really commit to each other again. We moved into a home together, I got pregnant, and i thought the past would be behind us. We both have tried therapy (i am the only one continuing therapy).  But things have gotten worse. He does not trust me.  He hasn't tried to ever trust me.  The reason I left back then was because he took out his issues he had from his past relationships, out on me and I couldn't handle it.  Now he throws me cheating on him in my face all the time.  
He asks me to send pictures when I'm away to prove where I am, goes through my phone, he doesnt like me socializing at work, he gets mad if I dress nice, and he has resorted to calling me names in front of our daughter when we fight.  He always says "if you truly loved me you wouldn't have done that. If you loved me, you would do anything to prove yourself to me."
I have been 1000000% faithful since then, but I'm always accused of not being. I cant take it anymore. I dont know what to do anymore. He said he forgave me a long time ago, but I feel like I'm being punished every day. 
Do I deserve the way he is treating me? Should I throw our 4 year relationship away or keep trying? I'm so lost, but I'm breaking at the same time.

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I would leave because the way he is treating you is abusive. You and your daughter deserve better than that. You were broken up so that is NOT cheating. He is clearly insecure and taking it out on you.

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First thing- he doesn’t need to forgive you for anything. Because you did not do anything wrong. I hope you didn’t say you were sorry. 
Second- if he was taking out past relationship problems on you and now he is doing this is because he just doesn’t know how to handle a relationship, he is too immature and he is verbally abusive and controlling
I hope you seriously reconsider this relationship because neither you or your daughter are in a healthy environment.

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You guys were broken up. Stop allowing this behavior, at the end of the day you can only allow what’s being done to you. You control your life and who’s in and out.
I’ve been through this and I chose myself, I had my daughter to worry about you gmfu thinking I’m going to be with a man child. 
Know your worth Queen.

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If I were in his situation, I wouldn’t have gotten back together with you. Yeah, you were on a break, but knowing me I couldn’t do it. It would break my heart thinking about that. So knowing that, that’s why I wouldn’t have gotten back together, no matter how much I loved them. 
As for him, that was his mistake. I think you’re well within your rights to leave. He chose to still get back together. He still knows he can’t handle what happened. I’d leave.

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Honestly just leave because my boyfriend and I literally broke up, like big nasty break up, no communication blocked each other on everything the whole 9 yards and I was trying to move on and started talking to other guys. Well me and boyfriend ran into each other so we started talking got back together and everything. But he looks through my phone and if he finds old messages between me and someone I talked to during the six months we were broke up he gets upset blocks them then doesn’t talk to me for like 20 min. Another man can’t even tell me oh hey you look nice today without him feeling the need to assert dominance over it. And it’s really making me feel like he still has issues about our break up and I’m almost to the point of moving out until he can make peace with himself about what happed with us because I feel like he is definitely not over it.

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You don’t deserve it. You weren’t together so it was definitely not cheating. I understand why he’s hurt though. But he shouldn’t be throwing it in your face. Especially after so long. Maybe try counselling again, if nothing changes you should most likely leave. Name calling is never okay. And his actions are extremely controlling. Red flags for sure

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I'd be done. You sleeping with someone else while you were on a break (although I do feel you guys should have discussed and agreed upon the rules of the seperation) doesn't justify his abusive behavior. 
He stayed. He made that choice. He cant hold his decision against you now. When you agree to forgive someone and continue the relationship, you decide to work together to mend the relationship. Instead of doing that, he's using it as an excuse to be a shitty person to you. If he was that hurt over what you did, he could, and can, leave. Not stay and hurt you for the rest of your lives. That's not okay.

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It will honestly take some time to regain that trust! And it’s not ok for him to keep throwing that in your face all the time! I mean eventually you will get fed up.. talk to him about it! Tell him how you feel! 
Tell him you will eventually get tired of him always talking shit...

Do I deserve to be treated this way?

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