MIL Rant!

So we live 3 hours away from my mother in law. Every time she reaches out to talk to me all she has to say is “when are you guys visiting”? Not even a “hi how are you doing?” Or anything like that first 🙄.

We haven’t visited in a few months but that’s only bc my husband and I have opposite work schedules at this time and he hasn’t been able to take time off of work as it’s been super busy for him. She is aware of that. I am able to but he’s always too tired or doesn’t feel like making the travel when I suggest it.

I don’t know why she only asks me when we are visiting! Never him! Then I have to ask my husband bc its all his schedule that causes issues. I have told her before he would be better to ask bc it’s about his work and let her know I try to talk to him about it too but I don’t really get an answer. He always gets annoyed and in a bad mood after bc I know he wants to make the visit, its just not a good time or when it is he’s too tired from work and doesn’t want to. I am the one trying to push him to visit bc we should soon, but she doesn’t know that. I swear she assumes it’s me not wanting to go.

Also she has NEVER visited us in the 3 years we have been here, we are always the ones doing the traveling. Even when her and her husband take a 2 week vacation from work to hang out at home they don’t visit and ask us to visit them. It’s ridiculous.

And this is all she ever has to say to me. “When are you guys visiting?” It like stresses me out when I see a text from her bc I know it’s just asking when we will visit and I’ll have to ask my husband then I know it will just start a fight.. ugh. I just don’t know how to respond to her!