I hate my grandfather.. what do I do?

*LONG POST*

So here’s a little background: my grandfather has 6 children, he isn’t from America, he’s from Central America. But, all of his kids are here & everyone is financially stable.. except my mother.

My grandfather and I never had a relationship, because i never went over there to visit until after my grandmother passed away. After that our relationship/bond was only when I would visit once a year. I have zero good memories with him. He was always so hostile and mean. I remember being 10 years old, blowing bubbles and him trying to beat me because he said 10 year olds are too old to play with bubbles. He was always grouchy mean and scary, I didn’t like him. My mother was the least favored as a child growing up, they were born & raised in El Salvador in complete poverty back 40-50 years ago. My grandfather would beat them unconscious, but the one that got the most beatings, was my mom. He tortured her as a child, he even hit her with a rock and it hit her in the lip, which still to this day, she has that extra skin hanging off her top lip. She wore ripped clothes, she had no shoes, and she was forced to drop out of school in the second grade. My mom grew up watching him beat, drag, rape her own mother in front of her. So when my mom turned 18, she decided to come to the United States for a better life. Here, after starting from nothing, she met my father at the age of 20, and together they raised themselves up and when she turned 24, she had me. My mom’s siblings older and younger came here and did the same. They settled here, and that was that.

My grandfather took this as an opportunity to drain his kids. He always call for money, he would get loans for 65k dollars and put it on the little ranch that my grandmother built on her own. so they were forced to pay it. He was always super manipulative, draining & toxic. He is 78 years old, and had 2 kids with 2 different women (weird right?) those kids are currently 3 & 4 years old. Guess who’s providing for them? His older kids.

My mom had a train of unfortunate events happen to her the last 6 years, my dad left her. My only little brother was 6 at the time, she had to do everything on her own.

I’m 24 now, I had my hardship in my relationship and found out i was pregnant and had to do it alone. But, I had a great job, a career, So I wasn’t worried.

About 2 years ago, my mom got into a terrible car accident that caused her to be unable to work anymore. With child support and her disability checks she couldn’t make it with my 12 year old brother. So what we did was we got an apartment together, and we went half on rent. It’s been great, I love having my mother around & it gave me a peace of mind knowing my son will be able to stay home with her while I work, because my mother has been an absolute saint with babies for years. My brother was thriving in school because he finally had a stable living. Everything was working out great!... Then I found out my grandfather was coming to the U.S. so, the original plan was he was going to stay one month here, one month at each one of his kids house and that’s how he was gonna live. It was like that for the first year, but after the first year, he begged my mom to stay here permanently. I didn’t know why at first but I let it go. He’s overtime became extremely territorial over things he has no say in, for example the bathroom. Me and my little brother share a bathroom because it’s connected between our rooms. We can’t peacefully use the bathroom anymore, because he needs the bathroom. He’s in the bathroom for hours doing nothing. It has gotten to the point where my mom and I are beginning to argue because I can’t bathe my son peacefully, without getting a knock on my door that I need to get out because he needs to use the bathroom. My mom has a bathroom in her room, and he refuses to use that bathroom because it’s not “ comfortable “ for him? When I buy groceries, he takes items for himself & hides them. I’ll buy apples for my son to snack on, he’ll take half the apples and put them under his pull out couch to eat. Recently his new thing has been that he now feels like he has a say in how things are ran in the house. Keep in mind, he doesn’t pay rent, doesn’t buy anything, doesn’t do anything what so ever he doesn’t even clean up after himself. My mom does it.

He now thinks because he is the only adult male in our home, he has a say in how things are ran. He wants there to be a scheduled time for the bathroom, he wants certain foods cooked on certain days, he wants certain days to be cleaning days, he wants the tv on this channel on these days at these times. He wants everything in our home ran HIS WAY.

He sleeps on this ugly pull out couch in the living room, that I absolutely hate because it takes up the free space in the living room, my son falls over and hurts himself often on this couch and it’s just a space waster.

His other kids are financially stable, bigger homes, he even has his own room and bathroom in these homes, but he refuses to live there. Why? You may ask. Come to find out, he doesn’t like it because he has to follow RULES and has ZERO POWER to control THEIR households. Here, my mom doesn’t say anything because she doesn’t want him to get upset.

I’ve tried confronting my mom about this & telling her I can’t continue living like this because of him, she starts crying and begs me not to leave because without me she wouldn’t survive, my little brother would fall back into doing bad in school, she wouldn’t have really anywhere to go.

Honestly, I have zero problem living with my mom and helping her, we have zero issues. But she can’t get rid of my grandfather, he doesn’t want to leave. What can I do? I’m so tired of this. We never built a relationship, I just have this hurt built up of my only memories of him, and on top of how toxic he has been and even after he came here, he never bothered to apologize, or make an attempt to make a relationship with me.

Please help ladies, I could really use some insight/advice. Thank you & sorry for the long post.