Kissing babies

Hey ladies! I’m trying to figure out if I’m just being a crazy FTM or if other people feel the way I do.

I have a sweet 11 week old little man. Since he was born his father and myself, told everyone no kisses. That rule was broken by his family within 2 minutes of meeting him. (He was born a little early and weighed 5lbs 3oz so this was even more irritating for me because he was so little)

His parents are teachers so they’re constantly exposed to all sorts of things they pick up from the little ones. They stop by regularly after work to see him, and NEVER wash their hands before they hold him and ALWAYS take off his hat to kiss him or kiss his face and hands. I constantly express how I feel and I’m told I need to stop keeping him in a bubble. Am I being irrational for not wanting people to kiss my baby??

Update!

Thank you so much for all of your responses! I’m so glad I’m not crazy or the only one that feels this way! There are so many ways to bond with a baby that doesn’t involve kissing them. I will definitely have my husband pull them aside and talk to them privately and if that doesn’t work, we will just have to tell them if they can’t respect our rules then they can’t see him. Especially the simple rules of washing hands and no kissing.

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Nope. They would be told they can not come see him anymore tell they can respect want you two want as his parents. I had the same rule with my son. Had to tell my stepmom if she could not do as I ask than she would not see him.

Ya

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I think allowing family to bond with my baby is more important than worrying about kisses.

Ya

Ya • Dec 30, 2019
This post was specifically about grandparents. Hopefully we know our parents well enough to know if they get cold sores, as well as what precautions need to be taken.

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H • Dec 30, 2019
What if someone in your family had herpes (cold sores) would you still let them kiss your child? You never know who has what, so that’s why lots of parents are strict with no kissing.

Ya

Ya • Dec 30, 2019
I'm very sorry that happened to that family. I'm sure it was devastating. I suspect that there were probably other circumstances that led to that unfortunate outcome. I have worked with children for 20 years and I have never experienced anything like that. I also love and protect my own 3 children with every fiber of my being. But that does not include denying family from kissing my children on the head.

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I don’t allow our family to kiss and I make sure they wash their hands before they hold him or they are not welcome to. If anyone has sniffles or coughs they aren’t allowed to hold him. If they think I’m crazy I don’t care, I’m more worried about the safety of my child than them getting some kisses or snuggles in. I’d much rather him be around forever to cuddle instead of something bad happening and him not be around anymore! Do what you feel is right!

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Babies die from being kissed/sick. Not a risk I’m willing to take, personally.

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J • Dec 30, 2019
Kisses or not, kids get sick. I prefer to enforce proper handwashing and staying home if you are sick.

Sa

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People who can’t follow my rules regarding my kids are not welcome in my house. They don’t have to agree with my rules, but they have to follow them. No exceptions.

Al

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Nope. They're just outright being disrespectful. You're his mother and what you say goes. Especially if they're teachers exposed to all those germs all the time.

Ba

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Rsv is a real thing and it can be fatal. I wouldn't let them see baby until they can respect a simple "wash your hands and don't kiss baby" rule.

Ka

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I think that’s so disrespectful and honestly that’s something I’m gonna be very strict about! Your baby and you know what’s best for them. Your husband should be backing you up too on this!

S

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No lay down the law. This shit pisses me off.

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No, it's one thing if they're washing their hands and being careful.. But it doesn't sound like it. My mother and MIL kiss my baby but to me, that's okay. Anyone else... No.