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See this from another angle: if theyre talking about your cousins to you, someone is talking you up to them. It sounds to me like they realize the cousins aren't up to par with you, but the only way to hype them up - in their opinion - is to bring you down a few pegs. Ignore them and whenever they talk about how wonderful the others are doing, remember that they're trying to over compensate. Congrats on your pregnancy!
Sick of getting compared to my cousins
Sorry for the rant
My grandparents always seem to compare me to my cousins. I’m 21 and they are 19 and 18.
ive worked a fifo job working 84hours a week. Bought my own car and have savings. And studied at uni (I did defer because the course I was doing was not something I could see myself doing for life). But am going back second semester with a different course.
And yet my grandparents never say I’m doing well or anything. They like to talk about how well the two other cousins are doing. But they are just working part time jobs for family friends. Neither have any ambitions of qualifications or uni.
They are like “oh yes J and T have both moved out into their own places now”. But the only reason my cousins have afforded to move out of home is because my grandparents bought them both each their own houses. And bought them expensive cars and race cars and parts.
I don’t even get a birthday card on my birthday. I’m not really complaining about material things as I don’t want anything off them. I just don’t think it’s nice to compare me to my cousins when it’s not an even playing field when everything they are getting praised for, are just things they have had bought for them.
:(( just got off a phone call to my grandparents saying myself and my boyfriend are expecting a baby. Which just ended with me in tears as they put me down
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Hun the best thing is to honestly ignore it, your only making yourself feel more down then you need to. As long as you recognize that your doing well and girl i recognize you too 👏🏻 thats all that matters yes they are your grandparents but if its becoming toxic its okay to stray away from them. Trust me i've strayed away from my own grandmother because she didn't care of showing her favortism with my other cousins and would barely even speak to me but my mom even told me if she doesn't want to make the effort i won't force you to bond with her and since then i could honestly say never been better. Focus on your now little fam.
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