Adoption/infertility

So my husband and I are starting to look into the process of adoption. Last night we had dinner with a sweet family who adopted 5 children, and we wanted to ask them some questions about the process.

During the conversation, they asked why we wanted to pursue adoption, and so I told them I struggled with infertility, and my mom and all her siblings were adopted, so it’s something I’ve always known I wanted to do, and my husband always wanted to as well.

I don’t like talking to people about infertility unless I know they also have struggled. It’s very difficult for me. I know it’s not my fault, but I do feel shame, and it’s the one thing that hurts me to my very core. I’ve always wanted to be a mother.

My husband knows this, and as we were chatting on the way home he said to me, “You know, you don’t have to say that YOU are infertile. You can say that we struggle with infertility. It’s not your fault, and I know you feel shame, but you don’t have to. We’re in this together.”

It was so sweet, and it really made me feel like he loved me. I’m so grateful to have someone who supports me emotionally like he does.