Livind Apart Together is when the people in a relationship live in separate places. LAT can describe a typical Long Distance Relationship (LDR), but it can also describe a couple who lives in the same city but keeps separate houses.

All throughout my teens and 20s, I had a string of LDRs. At first it was because my family kept moving, later it was thanks to the Internet. The one thing they all had in common was that my boyfriend and I were desperately counting down the days until we could physically close the gap and be together for good.

The LDR I'm in now is not quite like that. Maybe it's because I'm older, maybe it's because I'm recently divorced, maybe it's because he and I have spent the last 10 years building our separate lives in our separate cities. There is no doubt whatsoever that we love each other and are committed to being in each other's lives. We visit at least once a month (we're less than 200 miles apart). We would love to be together more. But neither of us want to move. It's not a thing we fight over, we have just accepted that this is our reality right now. Maybe someday it will change. But we have made it work for two years, and even though I miss him I love having my own space. Just wondering whether anyone else here is in a similar situation. Cheers to you and your long distance boos; may you all see them soon. ❤️🤍💗