Mental health and staying in hospital?

Question

So I was told that it’s probably a good idea to stay in the hospital after I give birth for me to get used to being a new mam around people that can support me... they said I’d be in for 3 days if I wanted to. 
Personally for myself, I feel I’d want to be home as soon as possible. To be able to shower in my own shower, with my own towels and my own bed. My partner is taking off time and I want him to experience every single moment he’s taken off with the baby. 
would I be selfish/stupid to say I wanted to go home as soon as I was physically possible after giving birth? 
***I have borderline personality disorder and severe anxiety disorder but my mental health is under control right now and I’m getting put onto meds 4 weeks before I give birth to balance my mood***

Answer

Firstly, I'm glad that you are feeling so well. I'm recovering from severe post natal depression and am pregnant again 🤦 It has been recommended that I spend 3-4 days in hospital following the birth. For me, I feel like staying in hospital will be beneficial as the nursing staff really helpful and the visiting hours are great ( husband would come in refreshed and take over baby duties whilst I slept). After my first was born I stayed in for 3 days which I found really beneficial as I had lots of breastfeeding support and they even took my baby so I could have a shower 🙌. I initially wanted to go home however on reflection I was glad I had the extra recovery time where I was being looked after. I have to say I'm looking forward to it this time too. Remember everyone is different though, so it may not be for you. Also, I'm being seen by my local perimental health team. If you are not already then your midwife/GP Should be able to refer you. Also, remember you have nothing to prove. I felt that I had to show I was coping however it turns out everyone finds those first few months overwhelming ... They just don't always tell you and they certainly never post anything remotely negative on social media 🙄😂 have a good chat with your partner and you will know what you feel is right for you !!  Wishing you all the best!!! 😘🥰🤗

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They should have a perinatal mental health team at the hospital who can come and see you soon after birth and support you at home. Only you will know how you are feeling and what is best for you at that time. Good luck x

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I left 5 hours later but in hindsight wish I’d of stayed in for more support as a new mum

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Are they suggesting this due to the mental health problems you’ve experienced and the plan to give you some medication 4 weeks before? 
It’s a really hard one to call ultimately you have to go with your gut. My son was born on a wed night and I didn’t get out till 9pm Friday night due to heavy blood loss and a lack of doctors to look at me at say I was ok 🙄 and honestly I was so uncomfortable and felt awful... as soon as I got out got my own hot shower clean jammies and a MASSIVE meal I felt a million times better! 
Could you discuss with your doctor maybe or whoever is making the decision to give you the medication prior to birth? X

Mental health and staying in hospital?

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