My husband and I have been married for almost 2.5 years and together for 8.5. We also have a 15 month old and I’m currently 11weeks pregnant.

We were young when we got together (16, 18)

We’ve been struggling lately. I’ve felt so unhappy lately with my role of being a mom. My daughter is a challenge and I’m often left exhausted with very little patience. I feel like I’ve lost my freedom and I’m “trapped”. This in turn has effected my relationship with my husband.

We’ve been joking around about how much things would be easier if we split and had a week on and off with our daughter. This joking eventually turned serious.

Then it turned into him saying he could see the benefit of us dating other people, which broke my heart because I couldn’t imagine being with someone else.

Then last night it became him being worried about our future because of my lack of “adventure”. I hate rollercoasters, I’m not a thrill seeker, I don’t want a house in the country with a lot of land, I don’t have strong desires to visit Italy, France, etc. he sees all this as us having nothing in common. Finally, he brings up my weight. Says he understands there’s nothing I can do about it since I’m pregnant but it’s been like this “forever”.

So now, not only do I feel like the most boring, lazy, piece of shit in the world, I am now also disgusted with myself. I hate how I look, I hate my personality, I just hate everything about myself. I’m pregnant which we were both excited about, and now I’m just sick over the thought of gaining even more weight and how I’m going to look. I just feel awful and have cried all day and night. I feel so horrible because I have done nothing but build him up our entire relationship. All of his insecurities I’ve helped build him up. But I feel like he has done nothing but tear me down and make me incredibly insecure😞

Where do I go from here? We are starting counseling ASAP but I feel so heartbroken that I can’t even look at him. PLEASE do not bash my husband. He truly is a good person, and an amazing dad, and I really don’t think he means to hurt my feelings. But please, what do I need to do?