Need to vent... about my husband

We have a 2 year old. I love my husband, I do. He works nights, I run a daycare. He’s had a cold for about 2 weeks now. That’s fine, but it seems he always has some kind of ailment. And NEVER enough sleep. Even if he sleeps 9 hours like he did All fucking weekend while I cared for our little lady.

I have had a rough week. I had our daughter all weekend and Saturday she was up all night with a fever, all day fever Sunday, up again all Sunday night, all day fever that time Monday but she’s still been extremely fussy and not feeling well and up all night since. It’s Wednesday. All the daycare kids have also been sick - and parents send them until I send the kids home.

So we have arrived to last night. My husband was off Monday and Tuesday. I put our daughter to bed lastnight and I was so spent, I went to sleep with her. Meaning, I wake up every couple hours to pee, and then she’s up miserable because of this illness. My husband came to bed late, and I was up. I start falling asleep and he starts snoring so loud. I let it go for an hour and finally I simply said “honey, can you please turn over, you’re snoring.” That was apparently a mistake. Our daughter tossed and turned (in bed with us sick) and at 6 am, was poking me in the face. I asked him to get up with her because I have to work all day, and he gets to sleep. He screamed at me. He got up, but he made it a point to make me feel awful.

I stayed in bed feeling like garbage, exhausted, nauseated, sleep deprived garbage. My alarm went off 45 minutes later and I got ready, and went down to get the toddler ready for daycare. He went off on me about him needing sleep and me being ridiculous.

I spent my morning crying and feeling like crap. I told him I do this myself most of the time and was hoping he would help when he’s not at work. He ended up apologizing, but this has been the way it goes since our toddler was born. I’m so upset. Why can’t I have a husband who pitches in without complaint? Why is my sleep and psyche not important? Who the hell did I marry?

Anyone else feeling like this, or do pregnancy hormones have the best of me? I’m 12 weeks today, and am pretty happy about that. I’m just not too happy about my marriage right at the moment.