Husband rant - 9mo baby

It was his turn to put the baby to bed, we generally take turns aside from a few days ago he doubled up bc my carpal tunnel was killing my wrist. I put LO to bed last night, and hubs is taking a boys weekend away Friday - Sunday so I will be handling the next 2 days AND nights solo.

I could hear LO crying on the monitor while he was trying to get him down. Then I hear footsteps on the stairs...but I still hear crying and screaming on the monitor?? That can’t be right...I turn around and there’s my husband. So I run upstairs to get our screaming 9 month old, who I’m pretty sure was screaming when my husband left the room. He said he didn’t start screaming til he was on the stairs...but even then he continued all the way down and then across the house.

Then he says something to the effect of “you could fucking help for once”. Just to recap I put LO to bed last night and was up w him when he woke at 530. DH is leaving for the whole weekend while I stay home alone with the baby. And he had a boys weekend in November and is always sure to make time in his day for his daily workout and scrolling through Twitter for an hour or two. We both work full-time and maybe it’s me but I would never walk in the opposite direction (let alone different floor) of my screaming child unless I was seeking emergency medical attention or something. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Am I overreacting? Bc I feel like he was a shit dad to leave him there in the first place and a shit husband to put me in the position to run and go get him. If you want me to take over, bring him back down with you??

He thinks he’s sleep training, but of course hasn’t actually read up on it at all and thinks he can just ignore our sons cries and he’ll put himself to sleep. For the most part LO likes to be rocked for a bit and falls asleep in our arms or the crib with soothing. Generally sleeps 8-10 hours with occasional midnight wakings.

UPDATE

So hubs arrived home this afternoon. LO was asleep. Within 30 minutes of him waking up husband is already phoning it in. Sat LO in walker and let him wander the house while he sat in front of the tv scrolling on his phone. Periodically played w him but mostly not. I suggested they play in the playpen where he can actually see him. He denies staring at his phone and tells me to stop being an asshole. Fast forward a few hours, LO pukes, Has 102.5 fever and hubs chastises me about junk mail and starts looking through it while I’m holding baby waiting for him to get Tylenol. Fast forward again and he gives me the baby bc he can’t deal and I put him to bed after close to an hour of soothing. Husband is already in bed, bc I guess he had a rough weekend?

Me-what the actual fuck????