Husband unknowingly told off his mom

So my MIL is not my favorite person. She is very conniving and manipulative, but she puts on a front of “I’m so sweet, I do so much for other people.”

Well, she weaseled her way into being a hostess for one of my baby showers 🙄. I was not thrilled but decided to make the best of it.

Last night I was supposed to meet with the hostesses to discuss dates, colors, and guest list. The main hostess texted everyone and said that because of some conflicts they would meet at a different time. I was included in the texts when we arranged the meeting, and it worked for everyone except one who said she would just be 30 minutes late. Well now magically that MIL is involved, it now has to be changed. The other women were giving evening times they were available next week. MIL suggests they do a lunch meeting instead. She knows that I couldn’t possibly do that. I work in a town about 30 minutes away and only get 25 minutes for a lunch break. Clearly not going to work. A couple of the other women agree they could do lunch. All this happened before I saw the texts. Next week I don’t have any free evening either, and I let them know that, so they just decided that I could share my ideas with MIL for her to bring to the meeting. I ended up texting the main hostess and telling her that I didn’t want to come off as rude or mean but that I didn’t think that was the best idea. MIL blatantly disrespected things I did or did not want at our wedding showers and wedding. She did things I asked her not to, and she didn’t invite a bunch if people we had on lists for showers and the wedding. I figured she’d do the same with this. The main hostess said she understood and would call me so I could discuss details with her instead.

So anyway, MIL calls my husband on his way home from work (I’d already told him I didn’t have to meet with them that night.) She starts asking if I’m upset about the meeting being changed. He said not upset but that I couldn’t make it at any other time, so it was an inconvenience. Then he added, “And whoever suggested having it at lunch is a dumbass! They should know she can’t meet then.” 😂

So he gets home and tells me about this conversation. I guess my facial expression changed when he told me that, and he asked what. I hesitantly told him it was her that suggested lunch. He rolled his eyes and said that’s probably why she didn’t say much after he said that.

My husband has gotten a lot better about telling his parents when they’ve done something wrong, but it made me laugh that he did this one on accident and called her a dumbass! 😊