I (kinda) hate my husband

When we were dating things were not like this. He pulled his weight.

I’m coming to the realization 5 years married, he didn’t want a wife, he wanted another mother.

I’m so sick of his shit. I even call him out on it and he twists everything to make me the bad guy.

For example I had a 3 funerals this past weekend. An Aunt, and two friends. So, I went to my home town and took our children. I get home to a house a little messier than I left it, and to discover laundry everywhere. He dug through all our laundry only took out his, only washed his, discovered the clean clothes in the dryer, dumped them on the floor and dried and folded his own. 🙄😡

Selfish piece of shit. He does that stuff allllllll the time. So I ask him why he did that. Why wouldn’t you just do all the laundry? You were home for two days doing nothing, it’s the least you could have done!

“Hey, you’re the one who left me here to fend for myself! I even had to go pick up groceries.” Was his reply.... he picked up enough beer and snacks for the weekend that was it.

Now he is mad at me. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄😡

So, here’s the question. Anyone had this happen? Did you make it work or do I need to get my life in order so I can leave this man child?

I’m thinking I’ll give it until my son is old enough for preschool daycare. Two years.

My husband won’t do therapy with me. He thinks we are fine. Well, things are fine for him because he has a maid and chef at home.

I’ve asked him what I’ll need him for when I go back to work. I do everything, from mowing the lawn to taking out the trash. If I ask him to do anything I’m a “naggy bitch” “don’t tell me what to do!” 🙄 he replied “I don’t know, more money?” I don’t want more money I want a partner. I thought I had that. I’m a stay at home mom because he wants me to be home.

Is there anything I can do? I’ve read marriage help books none of the methods are working.

Bonus question. When you were dating how did you know they’d be a good partner? I just feel like he faked his way until we had children.

Thanks for reading my rant/beg for help. I’m feeling very alone in life.