I been married for 3 years now and have an Year old baby. Mine was a love marriage and my husband is very good, supportive, helps in all household stuff, does child minding also, good with my parents and everything seem perfect here. Except one thing which bothers me and I want to take your advice.

Before marriage my husband met a lady who was orphan and had child marriage had two kids by the age of 18 and then in 19/20 her husband died and she is a widow single mother. My husband really got into her story and once decided to lead life with her as her life partner, adopt her kids and though they weren’t married or living together - they believed to be partners and even though that lady was working but my husband was taking financial responsibility to some extent and was a support to them. Of course his parents didn’t like his idea to be so generous and marry her and opposed this relation. After few years we met and I liked his nature and everything. He did told me about his past and I also thought it can not be love but just a condolence probably and married as everyone can have past. He requested that he can still be in contact with her which will fade over a period of time and will support her whenever required. I agreed and considered this like a charity support. I just asked him that whatever support you are doing to her or whenever calling her- let me know. since our wedding we are living in different country than that lady but he talks to her. Whenever I ask him when did you talk last he says few days back but as per my request doesn’t tell me when does he talk to her and this irritates me. Though he promises there is nothing between them and it’s just casual call - I ask then what’s harm in telling me. Everytime when I ask he tells and we have huge fight- I keep shouting and he silently listens - doesn’t give even a single word back and after next day or so hugs me. Says sorry and then again it happens.

I am not understanding why does he not want to tell me and how can he stop talking to her. I am really upset with that and though I love him but this is creating gaps between us. Please let me know your views.