I’m in need of a bit of advice here.

I’m currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. He was from the start very open to me having 3 children. I’ve grown so fond and attached to him/vice versa. It’s come down to the point where we would like to wake up to each other, go to bed together, etc. we spend our free time together when I’m child free. Things are good and pretty serious. He hasn’t officially met my boys yet and honestly guys... I’d like to introduce them to him.

My problem is I’ve been facing some really hard times with my boys lately. I’m not sure if the split between their dad and I is too much for them or what’s going on at dads house but my boys are not the same anymore. They’re always bickering, play fighting, yelling, calling each other names and occasionally cursing. It’s beyond frustrating as I don’t speak to them in such a way but it’s obvious they’ve picked this behavior up somewhere. I’ve had one babysitter quit because she doesn’t like my middle child (he’s 4) and said he’s too much for her. I have a babysitter now who just told me she was overwhelmed. She explained my kids called her names... if I’m to be honest I don’t think she will last either 😢 I’m extremely disappointed and embarrassed. I have no idea what to do. The reason I bring this up is because after the new babysitter told me she’s overwhelmed by them (Theyre 5, 4 and 7mo) I don’t think she will last much longer leaving me to realize how B.A.D my kids really are 💔 I’m afraid my boyfriend will not tolerate their behavioral issues and decide he won’t want to be with me.

I understand that my children come first and if a man I’m with can’t accept them then who needs him but this isn’t the same cause this is behavior nobody should have to accept or tolerate. I want to hang out with them all together but I’m so nervous my boys will leave a bad impression and he will realize that my little family and I aren’t what he wanted. If it makes a difference he is 22 and I’m 24. Please, no judgment ladies I’m truly struggling here as a single mother, a dating one at that. I’m not even sure if this fear is rational but I’m scared they’ll just act up and he will be like oh hell no. I’m exploring mental health with my oldest as he displays chronic symptoms of ADHD, but my middle child seems to be better when older brother isn’t around. Youngest one is too young to really care right now lol.