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The way he is acting is extremely immature. What you said wasn’t right either but his reaction isn’t going to fly when that baby is here. You guys sound very very young but maybe once the baby is here it will force him to grow up. If not, I foresee a tough future with him.
Boyfriend isnt talking to me (UPDATE)!!
Im 6 months pregnant, we have a dog, the dog had been having diarrhea for a week and a half, shitting all over his crate. so I told my bf lets just give him one thing (his food) only and see if that’s the problem. Ok we agree, he was also told by the vet to give him bland things like rice. We’re going out to get food and he tells the dog to get in the crate and proceeds to give him a milk bone treat to which I say you’re going to be a terrible parent (I’m well aware that what I said specifically in this time of doubt and becoming new parents was the wrong thing to say and I apologized). I didnt mean it in as generalized statement and it was specific to the dog moment because he’s always spoiling the pup. He really got offended and hasnt said not one word to me since tues. Like he’ll come home or I’ll come home and and not say hi or anything. He’ll cook enough for himself and call it a night.
Ive apologized several times and I’ve explained it was a situational comment. That If I really thought he wouldn’t be a great father I wouldn’t have taken this any further.
I feel like a guest in my own home. I’m hiding out in the bedroom, sleeping super early because he takes over the tv and living room, and I don’t want to share space with someone who is going to completely ignore my existence.
Only time he said something was through text when I had had enough of being locked in the room and I went for a walk to speak to my male best friend of the situation and he txts me “what the fuck are you doing” to which I respond I’m leaving you alone, so I went for a walk, so then he responds “That’s cool and all, but as long as you still got my son attached to you, the night random dumb walks need to end. So bring your ass back.” So..... the walks to clear my head and stop from crying are a bit much but you haven’t even bothered to ask if I was hungry when you cooked or anything?
I know and I am well aware that what I said and the way I said it was wrong, and I’ve apologized idk what to do anymore.
UPDATE: so he went out last night, I’m going to assume with his buddies and got super drunk he’s been throwing up all morning and guess who is refilling his cup of ice cold water so he stays hydrated?? Yup me!
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That's emotional abuse and I'm sorry you are going thru that in this very sensitive time of pregnancy. You already sincerely apologized, there is no need for the hurt and pain he is causing you. I know it's easier said than done, but standing up for yourself, as opposed to unintentinslly being his victim, works wonders. It could look something like " hey, I already apologized and I sincerely meant it. It seems you need your space, and I'm willing to give it to you. When you are ready I'll be here to talk and continue our normal life. In the meanwhile, I'll take my refreshing walks, -go out with my friend-, go to the mall, go to my moms, etc.. (whatever makes sense in your situation). And stick to it.Is amazing how people react once we stand up for ourselves. Once he sees he doesn't have a complete hold of you, things could be different.Caveat: if you fear he will become violent, seek help.Look around online for emotional abuse signs and how to deal with it.Best of luck.
I don’t think the future will be very good with him, I would never be with my significant other if he was that disrespectful. It wasn’t right on both parts but he’s a dick..Also you should give a dog rice if they have diarrhea, rice mixed with chopped meat is the best, you should not give them their dog food as it could worsen the diarrhea. My dog had diarrhea recently cause she ate a rotten avocado in our yard and we only gave her rice and chopped meat until it cleared up (as the vet told us to do.)
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