Hello everyone ,

I just need some support and a little advice here. Maybe alot of other women went through something similar like I have.

My child's father is on child support. Hes been on it for about 15 months. But my child is 2. Hes never really been there even throughout pregnancy. My mom bought the crib, blankets, and everything my son needed. When she didn't have too. He use to get him every other weekend now he barely gets him.

When my son was 6 months he left me for another woman, a much older woman his coworker to be exact.

So she pretty much tries to pick at me. They just moved in together and I guess she thinks she won. When my BD called me one time regretting they even moved in together and everything and sorry for all the BS he put me thru with her. He still claims hes not over me. He will continously try to watch my facebook stories and everything.

I stop officially dealing with my baby daddy in October. I cut everything out. Then that when he started posting her and such.

So yesterday. He was telling me he wants to get an passport but you cant get one If you owe back childsupport. So there's nothing I can do about that

Just plan a trip in states. Then he says he deserves all of my income tax cause he was paying child support to me all year. That I'm taking advantage of him. Like ok....i said no. His girl then ended up posting a pic of her and my son to try to get to me. But it didn't. They barely have him. I just told him why is she trying to be messy. Then he told me" life will change I promise"...

I'm not sure if hes trying to threaten me with a laywer or not.

Now lets back up in time for alil....

Wednesday night my BD grandmom took my son to chucky cheese. When my bd came to drop him off that night he was trying to rub on me and he kept giving me hugs, kissed me on the cheek, but he was acting weird about it Like he acted like he missed me. But I didnt say anything I allowed it. Just to see where his head was at. Then he gave me and his son one big hug. Then left than came back to give a his sippy cup and some more hugs. Mind you he says hes not over me.

Now back to friday....he was suppose to pick up his kid. We dont have an custody arrangement or anything. nothing is established. But after all that he said he did not once mention him. I got him dressed and basically we were waiting. he never texted me back or even called me. Which was hurtful. Then like I said while all that is going on his girl is posting my kid on her page like she doesnt have one.

His mom called me to ask if luis came to get him. I said no. She tried calling him and he denied all her calls. She even said he was suppose to get him. But I'm not gonna force a man to get his kid.

I think Monday morning I'm going to go file for sole custody like I should've been done. Then take the opportunity to move to another state with my sister and give him a visitation schedule, and lower childsupport.

I've been wanting to move for 2 years. but he always scared me with I'm going to try to order you back bullshiit. When I talked to attonery they said he can but its gonna be hard for him when he barely gets him and when hes suppose to he doesnt show up. My sons father told me if I move he will order me back "just because he can, just like I have him on childsupport just because I can". Should I just take him off ?

I just have more support for my son with my sister and my dad's family. I can get back into nursing, daycare is cheaper and pay is more. Rent is also lower.

Idk what to do guys. I think I'm overthinking this and to just move and file.

I tried giving him chances. He didnt call or text for him to get him. Because of money. She has a kid and he doesnt mind living with her and dealing with hers. I just dont know why he acts like my kid is unwanted.

I've been raising him myself ...I had my son at 19 and his father was my first relationship. I feel so lost and I feel like I really failed at giving my son a good life. I feel depressed alot ...