Okay, so to start off my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and we are 19 so we aren’t planing to have kids soon at all! But when it has come up in conversation or I asked about it he has always stated very clearly that he never wants kids. And I have stated a lot that I would really love to have children one day and he never really sees my point of view. And today when I asked if he is serious about not wanting kids ever he said “yeah I never want to have kids, would you leave me if I still didn’t want kids later” and I said “probably not, no(with a laugh at the end)”. But I still really want kids when I’m in my late twenties, it’s been something I have been imagining since I was a kid myself. I have always wanted to be a mom and now that the love of my life has expressed just how much he never wants kids I feel sad and like I’m giving up on something I have always wanted. But at the same time I never want to force him into something that he doesn’t want to do. I’m just really confused about this whole thing bc we are so young and that it’s so far in the future, but still scares me knowing that a whole part of my life that I have imagined might never happen. I think what scares me a lot is I’m either choosing to never have children or not be with the person I love most in the world, both are incredibly important to me (my boyfriend being way more important to me right now since I am practically a kid myself) and Idk how I am supposed to think about these things, it’s all very adult and worrying to me.

Am I thinking to far ahead? Am I being too pressuring by asking about his thought on having a family one day? Have any of you had a situation like this and what advice do you have?